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Ask Dr. Miro: Fantasy Threesome [What you Didn’t Learn in Health Class]

Dear Dr. Miro,

In order for me to get an orgasm – or even be close to getting an orgasm – I have to think about having a threesome with my long-term boyfriend all of the time, otherwise, nothing happens. Is this really bad? It would be nice to come with just who’s there (meaning my boyfriend), and not some extra imaginary dude.


Sincerely,
Toosie Nuff


Dear TN,

Fantasies are great! There is nothing wrong with having a make-believe threesome incorporated into your sexual repertoire. I do think there is a lot to the phrase “whatever works”. If you are having orgasms and enjoying your sexual escapades, both real and imagined, who is to judge what is “bad”?

Is it possible for you to mention this imaginary Ménage a Trois to your beau? You do not have to tell him the part about not being able to orgasm without it but if this is a fellow you want to be having sexual explosions with for years to come, he should have some clue as to what does it for you. You could even ask him about what HE fantasizes about. Perhaps you two will be able to meld some of them together!

Lust & Happiness,

Dr. Miro