Baby-sit Before You Baby-make [Frankie Says...][Best of FaN]

Since I believe this is still such an important topic and the ONE thing I would tell people about to reproduce, it’s my favorite piece from the last year. Also because it has ‘prairie dogging’ it’ somewhere in there. How can you not like a story with THAT phrase in it?...

SEXpectations [Frankie V.] Jun28

SEXpectations [Frankie V.]

Frankie asks… Is meaningful bad sex better than meaningless good sex? This question has boggled me for years, just over a decade to be precise, since I first started having sex. At first, like all young girls who venture into the complicated realm of intercourse, I thought that when I man had...

Moving On and Moving Up [Frankie Says...] Jun14

Moving On and Moving Up [Frankie Says...]

Frankie says… Moving on is moving up. I’ve recently gone through some career changes that will ultimately affect my life, and vice versa, of course. When is one not intrinsically attached to the other? For years now, I’ve been supporting myself as a nanny. I was able to begin my writing...

Friends vs ‘Friends’ [Frankie Says...] May31

Friends vs ‘Friends’ [Frankie Says...]

Frankie says… Facebook friends do not friends equal. Since joining Facebook, I have amassed friends that are not actually my friends in real life. Mostly, these people are acquaintances from my past or were friends of mine at some point in time. But it’s curious that before Facebook or...

Mommy Issues: Parents are People Too [FRANKIE SAYS...] May17

Mommy Issues: Parents are People Too [FRANKIE SAYS...]

Frankie says… Parents are people, too. Since I recently wrote about my daddy issues, I find it only fair to write about my mommy issues as well. Now my issues surrounding her are not so definable – they’re much more convoluted and intrinsic to that weird and confusing bond between a mother...

Daddy Issues [Frankie Says...]

Frankie says… Sometimes you just have to put your foot down. For me it happened this week, when I realized that the man I was falling for was utterly, ultimately f-ed up. He was going to drag me down with him, or worse, use me like he uses the other girls. I’ve come to the conclusion...

Learning by Mistaking [Frankie Says...] Apr05

Learning by Mistaking [Frankie Says...]

Frankie Says… Triple check everything before you send it to the editor. By day I’m a writer. By night… I’m a producer. Actually that’s not entirely true. Yes, I’m a writer and yes, I’m a producer, but that first sentence just sounded cool so I wanted to write it that way. Day and night, I’m...

Liz Lemon vs. Carrie Bradshaw — Frankie Says..[XXOO]

Frankie Says… Tina Fey is my idol. When I first started writing, I thought of myself as a very young Carrie Bradshaw – all gumption and glory, no consequences or catastrophes. But through the last two-and-a-half years there have been a few consequences and some minor, but significant...

BFFs for…Life? [Frankie Says...] Feb23

BFFs for…Life? [Frankie Says...]

Frankie Asks… Does growing up have to mean growing apart? Every time I’ve seen my best friend, J., over the past few years there’s been just a little more tension than the last time. Is it all in my head? Does she feel it too? Am I the only one that feels that ever since we moved out of the...

What I love… [Frankie Says...]

Frankie Says… TRY IT. In the spirit of love and all that crap, I’ll give you a snapshot list of all the things I love in my life right now: I love warm LA days in February. I love my new apartment. I love making eggs with sautéed kale or spinach in the morning and eating it standing up...

Sundance at it’s Best and Worst [Frankie Says...] Jan26

Sundance at it’s Best and Worst [Frankie Says...]

Frankie Says… This is the low of Sundance for me. I thought I’d write about the low for two reasons: 1) I’m good at complaining, and 2) Everyone knows the highs of Sundance – great movies, talented filmmakers, super fun parties, great networking, snow. This morning started off great,...

Sibling Rivalry? [Frankie Says]

Frankie says… There is no relationship I can think of as complex as a sibling’s. There can be intense hate between two siblings in one moment, and three hours later there’s joking and laughter. But wait another hour and someone will have made a snarky comment and we’re back to intense hate....

Date online with caution… [Frankie Says...] Dec15

Date online with caution… [Frankie Says...]

Frankie says… Date online with caution. (Should go without saying, but hey… a little reinforcement never hurt anyone – myself included.) I am very likely going to completely embarrass myself by telling this story, but it’s too juicy and ridiculous and hysterical not to tell… A few weeks...

Getting Older, or Just Wiser? [Frankie Says...]

Frankie says… Get off your lazy ass, you 20-something. Having just turned 28, I feel I can now say things like, “That generation…” and “Those kids…” Twenty-eight is decidedly ‘in your late 20s’ and there’s no skirting around it. So, as a late 20-something, I’d like to express my extreme...

The Innocence of a Book [FRANKIE SAYS...]

Frankie says… Try to pretend every now and then. I heard this author speaking about her most recent book on NPR the other day. She was saying how her four main characters were so different, but were all really just pieces of her. I envied her ability to make things up, her obvious grasp on...

The Single Girl’s Dilemma [Frankie Says...] Nov03

The Single Girl’s Dilemma [Frankie Says...]

Frankie asks… Is it easier to be single than to be in a difficult relationship? I know on the surface that question looks relatively easy to answer. You’re mouth may even be half open with a quick answer and witty reasoning. However, you’ll be stumped. Really. Ask yourself, or better yet, ask...

The Way of the Modern Woman (or Man) [Frankie Says...] Oct20

The Way of the Modern Woman (or Man) [Frankie Says...]

Frankie says… Always have at least two to three jobs. The difference between Carrie Bradshaw and myself is pretty slim: she has an insanely expensive shoe collection of Manolo Blahniks and Jimmy Choo’s and the cutest rent-controlled apartment in all of Manhattan. Otherwise, we’re both with...

Online Dating – A Window into The Stupids [Frankie Says...] Oct06

Online Dating – A Window into The Stupids [Frankie Says...]

Frankie Asks… Would You Date ME If I Wrote That?? In my quest for the perfect man (or just any man that will stick around really – yea, I’m that desperate), I’ve been online dating for about a year now. We’ve all heard the horror stories – the ‘date that looks nothing like their...

A Cheatee’s Dilemma [Frankie Says...] Sep08

A Cheatee’s Dilemma [Frankie Says...]

Frankie asks… What is in for the cheatee? So I’m still feeling out my blogging skills and testing out my format, and I’ve done some thinking… I’m not right all the time. In fact, that’s just what my post was about a few weeks ago. So, in that vein of honesty and self-awareness (which I have a...

The Ultimate Guy List [Frankie Says]

Frankie V. says… As a big proponent of list-making, I think every single person should try writing a down all the qualities they want in a significant other – whether attached or not. I know this sounds like stupid new-age BS, which I can’t stand. (Like everyone and their mother picking...

No Longer the Bridesmaid [Frankie Says...]

Frankie says… Admit you are wrong, even if you think you are right. This is especially the case when a friend is involved that you would rather keep in your life. And even when it doesn’t involve someone of that importance, it’s a good idea to practice admitting that you were wrong.  Because...

Fiercely (and a bit begrudgingly) Being a Bridesmaid: FIERCE ANTICIPAT...

Originally published 05/27/11 This weekend is one of my best friend’s bachelorette party. Since it is a bicoastal wedding (the bride and groom-to-be live in San Francisco, while the family and bulk of the friends live in Massachusetts), we (and by we, I mean the bride and her east coast...