Dear Dr. Miro, How come when I’m having sex it sometimes feels like I have to pee and it’s not from G-Spot stimulation? I’m looking at biology books and can’t figure out how the urethra is connected to sexual arousal but it must be because it’s right there and sometimes when I hold it in for a long time I can actually have an orgasm! Please explain. Sincerely, Full Bladder Bertie Dear FBB, The urethra and the bladder are squished in there with all of your sexual organs. When you get turned on, there is a lot of swelling. In males it is obvious because you see the penis become tumescent, or erect. In females it is not as obvious but they...

Dear Dr. Miro, Do men who watch sadistic and degrading porn tend to have these desires? I found some pretty awful stuff on my boyfriend’s history stream and now I’m worried he’s really warped in ways that could be illegal. Not that it’s anything really illegal to look at (like kids or animals) but, seriously, intense stuff. Sincerely, Not Exactly Vanilla   Dear NEV, Some men who watch sadistic and degrading porn want those desires enacted in real life, but for the majority of people, NO. Whatever someone enjoys experiencing in fantasy world is usually just that: FANTASY. That is what is so wonderful about human beings–the...

Dear Dr. Miro, I feel very insecure. I’m on the hairy side, so when interacting with my partners (sexually) I don’t let them touch me how they want to touch me or how I’d otherwise want to be touched. I don’t want to gross them out, but I also want to feel good, so I don’t know what to do. Sincerely, Sad Yeti Dear SY, You have a few options: First is hair removal. If your body hair is interfering with your quality of life, do something about it! From permanent solutions like laser hair removal to mere shaving, there are many options for all genders and body parts. The second option is to accept what your body does, more or less – and in...