Dating While Southern (Belle) [Dating Ell-A]

Originally published 04/27/11 Los Angeles is – as expected – a bit of a challenging dating environment, particularly if you are from a culture two thousand miles away.   I grew up in a Southern city and compared to LA, my hometown feels a full century behind normal American...

Bill from Next Door [Dating Ell-A]

My hometown is a very small town in a historical area of Virginia.  With the Easter holiday fast approaching, I decided to go home and see my Gram.  She is getting along in years and hasn’t been doing well recently, so it was definitely time for me to spend some quality time with her.  I flew...

Getting Past the Velvet Rope in Miami [Dating Ell-A]

This week I was at the Fontainebleau in Miami being reminded of the good life.  Sure I was there for work and sure, being in a suit at the best beach bar in Miami on Friday around 3 pm wasn’t the best look I’ve ever sported, but nonetheless, I was there. The Lakers were in town, playing...

All Work and No Play [Dating Ell-A]

I spent the week in a ski town, trying out a crappy, stressful job. The only benefit was the possibility of meeting some good-looking ski guys.  For the first few days, I worked non-stop… 6:30 in the morning until 10 at night. No sightseeing or fun for me. Then on Wednesday night I got out at...

Dating Ell-A: Married Man on a Desert Island

The sexual chemistry was thick and brewing when I met him for the first time.   At the table, I wondered where the small talk of a deserted island was going to take us.  To be fair, the whole encounter wasn’t supposed to be taking place, but that was the thrill of it all.  The feeling was...

Dating Ell-A: Love the One You’re With?

It’s as if Valentine’s Day threw up all over the city of LA.  I wanted to be in love and have a romantic Valentine’s Day, but being single and without a boyfriend suggested that might not be possible this year.  So, to avoid another sighting of a red and white paper heart hanging in the...

Dating Ell-A: Beware of Reality TV stars who want to date you….

It’s one thing to be approached by a married man dusting off his game to see if he’s still got it, but it’s another thing to be approached by a reality TV star who is practiced in the art of the pick-up. This wasn’t any “ordinary” reality TV star; this guy actually had a show focused on...

Dating Ell-A: The Ex-Boyfriend Spark

I don’t know what it is, but the start of this New Year has made me want a few things.  First, I really want to bake.  Maybe it’s the cold weather, but cinnamon rolls have been on my mind lately.  Second, I really want to have sex.  Again, maybe it’s the cold weather, but I’m feeling the...

Dating Ell-A: Ski Town NYE

Since all my friends were out of town for the holidays or sick, I decided to go skiing by myself for New Year’s at a local resort.  After a couple of days of hitting the slopes and spending time perusing shops in town,  I ended up meeting a girl named Tracey who invited me to join her and her...

Resolved: 2011 [The Very Best of FaN]

Ernessa says: Yay! Well, New Year’s Eve is my favorite holiday and my favorite holiday activity is making my New Year’s Resolutions. But in order to do that, it’s good to review how you did the year before. So out of the 11 bulletpoint resolution list that I made last year,...

Worst of 2010: TV… [FaN Boos]

Ernessa says: My big complaint of the year is that there were really too many bad TV shows to choose from in 2010. I seriously had a hard time narrowing down my choices. Note to TV Execs: Next year you’ve just got to do better. That said, I’m going to have to go with THE WALKING...

Best of 2010: TV! [FaN Cheers]

Ernessa says: Well, guys for the first time in the entire history of me being moi, I find myself ending the year with no favorite new show. None of last winter’s mid-season replacements, the summer series, or the new fall series are deserving of high praise in my opin. As every...

Best of 2010: The Songs! [FaN Cheers]

Ernessa says: SO many great songs this year. Standouts for me included ROLLING IN THE DEEP by Adele, KEEP THE LIGHTS ON by Wave Machines, DIFFICULT by Uffie, BURIAL by Miike Snow, and XXXO by MIA — which was a surprising “grow on me,” since I claimed to meh it back in August...

The Best of Times/The Worst of Times: 2010 [FaN Remembrances]

Ernessa Says: Least Favorite Moment(s) of the Year: I’m still trying to process our dog, Tulip’s unexpected death. Also, one of my heroes, my Aunt Almeda also passed. As for my favorite moment of the year, I’ve been thinking hard about this, and while I enjoyed every single...

Worst of 2010: The Movies… [FaN Boos]

Ernessa says: This was a hard one. Part of me wants to say SCOTT PILGRIM VS. THE WORLD b/c the females were so poorly rendered in this film and I had such high expectations. But I think I’ll have to go with MEGAMIND, because it was such a boys club, and pretty much everything...

Best of 2010: The Movies! [FaN Cheers]

Ernessa says: I thought for a long time I would choose INCEPTION, because it’s truly a spectacular feat of writing and directing that audiences would come out of that movie saying, “It was so different and confusing” when in actuality we had been spoon-fed the plot and the...

Worst of 2010: The Books… [FaN Boos]

Ernessa says: The nice thing about being a published author is that it’s considered bad form to talk ish about other writers in a public forum. Because of this, if I found myself not enjoying a book during my 52 Books in 52 Weeks project, I put it down and went on to the next book on my...

Best of 2010: The Books! [FaN Cheers]

Yay, we’ve come down to my favorite time of the year, when chins hit chests and we spend a week pr two firmly gazing at our navels. Over the course of the next two weeks on FaN, we’ll be weighing in on our favorite books, movies, music, TV shows, and moments of the soon-to-be...

Dating Ell-A: Put dwn the fone

I was waiting in line at the coffee shop for my caffeine fix when the guy behind me started to talk to me. He seemed nice, well-dressed and average looking. After getting my coffee and chatting with him for about 15 minutes, he asked if he could take me to lunch sometime. Since I’m trying to...

Dating Ell-A: The “Man’s” Chair

Bruce was an investment banker and had potential. However, when he called for a date, he was not pleased when I told him that I was about to go on a 5-week yoga retreat.  Bruce seemed to be a highly aggressive type “A” personality, so I was not entirely surprised when, two weeks into the...

Dating Ell-A: Please Don’t Kiss Me

He was the man of my dreams…probably because I hadn’t even met him yet.  So I guess you could call him the “potential” man of my dreams. I try to walk into each first date thinking, “This date won’t suck.” Optimistic? Sure, but I always try to be more hopeful than hopeless. I met Chad – we’ll...

Dating Ell-A: The Option [Plan P]

“Can I go to the bathroom?” “No problem. I’ll get us seats.” Steve and I had just begun our date and my enthusiasm was already in single digits. We had met online and the fact that he was a scientist at a local research company intrigued me enough to agree to a date. I could only hope that...

Dating Ell-A: A Prescription For…?

I guess I consider myself a bit of a catch.  The well-educated girl next door type must – eventually – be able to find her version of Prince Charming.  With that attitude in mind, I went out on a blind date the other night with the best of intentions.  The “advert” served up to me on this guy...

Dating Ell-A: To Inner-Monologue or Not to Inner-Monologue

I had a first date with a music producer/writer named Jon at one of those hot new Hollywood restaurants that get all sorts of buzz and attention, but are really nothing more than haute dining chains for the rich and famous when they are in trendy cities. Most women would swoon at the thought...

Dating Ell-A: The Italian Job

The Incredibly True Tales of Two Women Dating in L.A. “You’re going to love our date.” Marco said, stepping on the gas of his new Mercedes sedan. The car gave out a smooth purr and accelerated as we made our way west on Washington Blvd. toward Venice. Marco was Italian, good looking and,...