Cheating Man Child! [Ask Dr. Miro: What You Didn’t Learn In Health Class]

Dear Dr. Miro, Why does a man have to cheat to make himself feel secure? I keep dating these guys who HAVE to go screw other women in order for them to feel OK. The way they have worded it, after I catch them, makes sense but then I step away and I realize it’s a load of bulls**t. Sincerely, Hurt Too Many Times Dear HTMT, First off, no one has to cheat to make his or herself secure. Feeling good about yourself is something that comes from with in. No amount of extra curricular sexcapades will increase a person’s self worth. Sounds like you have been with a few too many insecure jerks. Not that I like to put a negative label on anything but,...

Alcohol & Mature Sperm! [Ask Dr. Miro: What You Didn’t Learn In Health Class]

Dear Dr. Miro, Although my man never drank excessively, he quit alcohol about 3 weeks ago. How long does it take for his sperm to not be effected? We want to make a healthy baby. Sincerely, Ready & Waiting Dear R&W, Since it takes between two to three months for sperm to fully mature, I would give yourselves that for fresh, never tasted alcohol, swimmers. However, keep in mind that many intoxicated folks have made babies – healthy ones, even. It is true that extreme drinking (or any other excessive behavior) may lead to fetal complications so be aware of other factors in your lives. Eat right, drink (non-alcoholic) fluids, get...

OH O – Where Are You? [Ask Dr. Miro: What You Didn’t Learn In Health Class]

Dear Dr. Miro, I don’t think I’ve ever had an orgasm. My boyfriend noticed after sex I still want more and my clitoris isn’t sensitive so I’m not coming, right? And, he’s very insecure because he feels like he hasn’t done his job in making me come. He does everything he can but I feel like it’s me… Like I just can’t and I don’t even know what that feeling is supposed to feel like. I’ve asked him for more foreplay and to last longer – he does but I don’t think there is anything he can do. I’m really attracted to him and wonder what’s wrong with me. What are your suggestions into how to have an orgasm and is...

Do Thin Condoms Break Easier? [Ask Dr. Miro: What You Didn't Learn In Health Class]

Dear Dr. Miro: My man has a hard time staying, well, hard with regular condoms and likes using the thinner ones but I’m worried they won’t be as strong and maybe break on us? Is this true? I’ve had condoms break in the past and it was TERRIBLE! Sincerely, Helpless For His Hard On   Dear HFHHO, Regardless of how thin a condom may be, it must pass the same rigorous tests as all of the other ones set down by the U.S. Food And Drug Administration. The ultra-thin condoms may be easier to tear with jewelry or raggedy nails so watch out for that but as far as the usual (or unusual) thrusts and explosions, the thinner prophylactics will be as...

High Altitude Sperm Production! [Ask Dr. Miro: What You Didn’t Learn In Health Class]

Dear Dr. Miro, I travel a lot. My wife and I are trying to have a baby. I heard that sperm production is reduced at high altitudes. Will my frequent flying affect our chances? I know I could Google this but I prefer your answers. Sincerely, Guy In The Sky   Dear GITS, Studies have shown sperm production reduces at high altitudes but then, it returns after being at sea level for a bit. What folks experience at high altitudes that more likely effects sperm production and motility is the lack of oxygen. As long as the plane you are on has proper air levels you should be fine. The other thing to look out for is that sitting on your...

Stop Thinking And F Me! [Ask Dr. Miro: What You Didn't Learn In Health Class]

Dear Dr. Miro, My boyfriend and I have been together five years. We recently attempted to engage in intercourse. While doing foreplay, we try and do everything to each other: all the needs are satisfied and he has a nice erection but when it comes to having sex he becomes flaccid due to nervousness and having thoughts of getting me pregnant. Of course he wears condoms but still he gets the thoughts. We tried everything. I know there’s nothing wrong with his penis. It’s just the thoughts he gets messes up the whole mood. This is really frustrating both of us. What can we do to erase the thoughts out of his head so he lasts?...

Player Gets Played! [Ask Dr. Miro: What You Didn’t Learn In Health Class]

Dear Dr. Miro, I’m way open to all my sexual partners about not wanting to be monogamous and wanting to have fun. Be a Player. This should set the place up for honesty, right? But, just the other day I find out that one of my Girls has been seeing this dude & not telling me. I asked her about it & she shut me down saying, “We are not having this conversation!” What? What happened to communication? This guy’s a friend and now things are not cool. Sincerely, Feeling Betrayed Dear FB, It feels terrible to get shut down and experience betrayal on any level. That you are honest and open to your sexual partners about “Being a...

Cam Wank! [Ask Dr. Miro: What You Didn’t Learn In Health Class]

Dear Dr. Miro, I love masturbating for women while being degraded. The problem is trying to find women to do it in front of. I recently discovered a website where you can broadcast yourself and if you’re lucky, you’ll find someone who wants to watch you jerk off. My question is, is this legal? Do I have anything to worry about? Sincerely, Love To Show & Blow Dear LTS&B, As long as you are displaying yourself in situations where everyone is on board with your actions, things are fine. There are quite a few websites for ADULTS ONLY where you can do this. Since there is no money exchanged AND all parties are consenting, over 18 years...

Double Standard!! [Ask Dr. Miro: What You Didn’t Learn In Health Class]

Dear Dr. Miro, I REALLY like this boy, let’s call him “Y”. Every time we hang it’s INCREDIBLE! Y makes me so turned on but he refuses to say what our status is. I ask point blank, “Are we exclusive or are we friends with benefits” but he never gives a straight answer. THEN, I find out Y is dating other girls so I thought, “that is my answer.” I went out with some friends, met this other boy (let’s call him “F”) and we got pretty close. My friend posted a picture of us snuggling on her bed and now Y won’t return any of my texts. I know he saw the picture but really?! I can make-out with guys if he can be with other girls, right? I still want...

Meaningful VS Boring Sex! [Ask Dr. Miro: What You Didn’t Learn In Health Class]

Dear Dr. Miro, When I was in a relationship with a girl for about two years the sex was not good, I mean it was OK but not great. I could get hard and perform and everything except I couldn’t cum. After a while I decided to cheat and the sex was amazing so I ended the other relationship. Then THAT sex got boring and I stopped cumming every time so I ended that one too. This keeps happening, or not happening, I guess. Does this mean I will never be able to have a meaningful relationship because I NEED great sex? I’m a 22 year-old man and feel I should be able to do this. Sincerely, Where’s The One Who Will Rock My World? Dear WTOWWRMW?, This...

Urethral Orgasm? [Ask Dr. Miro: What You Didn’t Learn In Health Class]

Dear Dr. Miro, How come when I’m having sex it sometimes feels like I have to pee and it’s not from G-Spot stimulation? I’m looking at biology books and can’t figure out how the urethra is connected to sexual arousal but it must be because it’s right there and sometimes when I hold it in for a long time I can actually have an orgasm! Please explain. Sincerely, Full Bladder Bertie Dear FBB, The urethra and the bladder are squished in there with all of your sexual organs. When you get turned on, there is a lot of swelling. In males it is obvious because you see the penis become tumescent, or erect. In females it is not as obvious but they...

Sadistic Sammy! [Ask Dr. Miro: What You Didn’t Learn In Health Class]

Dear Dr. Miro, Do men who watch sadistic and degrading porn tend to have these desires? I found some pretty awful stuff on my boyfriend’s history stream and now I’m worried he’s really warped in ways that could be illegal. Not that it’s anything really illegal to look at (like kids or animals) but, seriously, intense stuff. Sincerely, Not Exactly Vanilla   Dear NEV, Some men who watch sadistic and degrading porn want those desires enacted in real life, but for the majority of people, NO. Whatever someone enjoys experiencing in fantasy world is usually just that: FANTASY. That is what is so wonderful about human beings–the...

Touching the Yeti? [Ask Dr. Miro: What You Didn’t Learn In Health Class]

Dear Dr. Miro, I feel very insecure. I’m on the hairy side, so when interacting with my partners (sexually) I don’t let them touch me how they want to touch me or how I’d otherwise want to be touched. I don’t want to gross them out, but I also want to feel good, so I don’t know what to do. Sincerely, Sad Yeti Dear SY, You have a few options: First is hair removal. If your body hair is interfering with your quality of life, do something about it! From permanent solutions like laser hair removal to mere shaving, there are many options for all genders and body parts. The second option is to accept what your body does, more or less – and in...