How to Exercise [2011 in Review]

One of the weirdest resolutions I achieved this year was establishing a good exercise regimen. I say weird, because this particular resolution was connected to having a healthy pregnancy (which didn’t come to fruition), and even then, I was only taking it half seriously. But here we...

How to Get A Bunch of Ish Done When You Have Like No Time [2011 in Rev...

It’s been a hectic seven days — I mean really hectic. First there was the freak windstorm that put my area of town into a state-of-emergency and erased my childcare for a couple of days. Then there were all sorts of negotiations and meetings, involving stuff I’m not allowed...

Books You Found Way After Their Popularity Faded [Oh, It's Tuesday]

I have a rather fond memory of this one paper I wrote about Milton’s Paradise Lost back in college. This epic poem belongs on the rather short list of English canon works that I actually enjoyed on a non-academic level, and I remember feeling particularly validated when I discovered...

Song(s) You Didn’t Know You Had Memorized [Oh, It's Tuesday]

The other day, I was driving along with my daughter in the backseat, listening to the only station we can agree on, 92.3, when “Miss You Much” by Janet Jackson came on. I started singing along with it and, to my great surprise (and my daughter’s bewilderment), ended up...

READY PLAYER ONE and THE MAGICIAN KING: Books 31 & 32 of 2011 [BO...

2011 wasn’t just a good year for books, it was an AMAZING year, just an embarrassment of riches as far as reading is concerned. And unless something else ridiculously wonderful comes along, I’m fairly sure that I’ve nailed down my top three books of the year. One of them is...

What Writer Has Paralyzed You? [Script Shark]

Ugh, I hate my memory. I can’t recall who I was talking to the other day about this, but somehow we got to discussing other writers who were so insanely good, they made us feel like an awkward fraud and paralyzed our own writing for a bit of time. For me, this writer was …  [find...

What Are You Scared to Write? [Oh, It's Tuesday]

Hey-o Happy Folks, Today I’m blogging over at Girlfriends Book Club about the genres I’m too scared to even attempt writing: Writers being writers (read really frickin’ neurotic), there’s a huge list of things that scare us. For my part, I’ve had both waking and...

The College that Never Was [Oh, It's Tuesday]

We’re about to start submitting my second novel, THE AWESOME GIRL’S GUIDE TO DATING EXTRAORDINARY MEN, which is about three women who attended my alma mater (Smith). This means 2 things. 1) I can finally read COMMENCEMENT by J. Courtney Sullivan (which is about white Smithies),...

HART OF DIXIE Review: Fall TV 2011 [Worth Watching?]

Yesterday, I watched two very different kinds of shows, one that came with a ton of hype, TERRA NOVA, and one that I didn’t know was even going to be on the air, until I was compiling my Fall TV 2011 Challege watch list — that would be HART OF DIXIE. How did it all turn out? Well,...

2 BROKE GIRLS Review: Fall TV 2011 [Worth Watching?]

Yesterday I watched two women-centered shows, neither of which I had very high hopes for, because of their situations: THE PLAYBOY CLUB, which is set in the 60s, at the Playboy Club in Chicago, and 2 BROKE GIRLS, which is set in a diner in contemporary New York. Well, I was totally right...

How CH Lost 80 Pounds in 6 Months [Oh, It's Tuesday]

Funnily enough, the number one response to my post about how I lost (and kept off) 40 pounds in a practical way and over a reasonable time period (a year), as opposed to my husband, CH, who lost 80 pounds in a dramatic way over the course of six months was … folks wanting know how CH...

How I Lost (and Kept Off) 40 Pounds [Oh, it's Tuesday]

As you may or may not know, depending on how long you’ve been reading this blog, I’ve made it my policy to repost any overly long comments I leave on other blogs — it’s basicallhy a time saver and a way for me to justify leaving overly long comments on other...

Your Professional Day Dreams [Oh, It's Tuesday]

Lately I’ve been having like porno-level day dreams about … an office job. Yes, I said an office job. I imagine myself going into a building I do not pay rent on, sitting down at a desk and checking my email before fetching a cup of coffee. I can just see myself talking to...

You Before College [Oh, It's Tuesday]

Yesterday right before leaving the office (Starbucks — and no, just in case you’re wondering, that joke will never get old for me), I noticed a group of young people who looked both knowledgeable and scared. I immediately pegged them as entering freshman from a nearby college, and...

The (Diet) Story of My Life [Oh, It's Tuesday]

I remember one of the guys I dated when I first moved to California expressing surprise that I ate so much processed and fast food. Most California girls, he insinuated, did not eat that way. Being fresh out of grad school – where I’d maintained a daily eating regiment of a large...

Writing Peccadilloes [Oh, It's Tuesday]

Right now, I’m in the middle of a pretty intense rewrite of my second novel. Actually this is the seventh rewrite. I did a sixth rewrite in response to my new agent’s notes, and now I’m doing a seventh to make sure that the sixth rewrite makes sense. This time, however,...

Do You Wear a Watch? [Oh, It's Tuesday]

It’s official, I’m old. I know this not just because I am still just wrecked from my aforementioned seriously-delayed overnight flight with our toddler, but also because I’ve had a rather strange craving lately: I want a watch, not as an accessory, but as a practical...

Regarding My Dislike of Gwyneth Paltrow: Oh, It’s Tuesday [BEST ...

I’m rerunning this one just because it was unexpectedly really, really popular. So many of our readers seemed to either irrationally dislike Gwyneth Paltrow or irrationally dislike another celebrity. If you didn’t weigh in the first time, please do so now. I really enjoy this...

Reading the Last Page [Oh, It's Tuesday]

The one reading sin that I absolutely can’t stand is reading the last page. It didn’t occur to me that so many people do this until I actually caught more than one random reader reading the last page of a just-about-to-be-purchased copy of 32 CANDLES. Anyone who’s read 32...

In Defense of Low Self-Esteem [Oh, It's Tuesday]

Like many women, I struggle with low self-esteem. But unlike many women, I’m not sure that’s a altogether bad thing. Here’s why: 1. Better dating experiences. I loved dating with low self-esteem. You know how some women sense that a guy isn’t all that in to her and she...

WHAT A WAY TO GO! [Oh, It's Tuesday]

Yesterday, a former, much younger work acquaintance took to Twitter, having decided to give more classic movies a chance after seeing CHARADE. He asked his followers for their suggestions. I immediately came back with WHAT A WAY TO GO! There are many more well-known films from this era, but...

The Muppets Movies [Oh, It's Tuesday]

I was especially happy to see the below trailer for the upcoming Jason Segel-penned muppets movie on the Facebook page of FaN blogger, Michael Kass, yesterday. Not just because I love Jason Segel — no most of my happiness stemmed from the fact that I can’t remember  a time when I...

What Would You Have Died Of? [Oh, It's Tuesday]

I forgot whether it was on another blog or in a book or maybe a newspaper article, but I was reading something in which a woman was talking about what she and her husband would have died of if not for modern medicine. And I’m somewhat morbid, so that got me to thinking that if...

What Month Were Most of Your Friends Born In? [Oh, It's Tuesday]

I live in California, so while I claim not to believe in horoscopes I kind of do. I tend to get along with Capricorns, Virgos, and Tauruses particularly well. But you know who I get along with best of all? People who were born in May. My husband was born in May. My BFF was born in May. My...

The Cost of IVF: Dollars and $ense [Oh, It's Tuesday]

I’m really honored to have been asked to contribute to the multi-blog Dollars and $ense of Family Building Discussion. If you’re new to the this blog, I’ll start off with a simple overview of our family building process up to now. April 2007: I went off birth control. April...

Play that Funky Music, Baby [Oh, It's Tuesday]

Lately, Betty has started really loving children’s music. She tries to sing along with YO GABBA GABBA, so tunelessly that we often have to check with each other that she’s actually singing. Sadly, singing ability doesn’t run in either of our families, and it doesn’t...

Shoes Off or On When You Write? [Oh, It's Tuesday]

A lot of singers make a big deal out of singing with their shoes off or on. Before I got super-organized, I used to almost always write in bed with my shoes off. Also, the Writing Pad classes I attend are shoeless, and I’ve often found myself getting what feel to be deep and creative...

Accept No Substitutes [Oh, It's Tuesday]

One of the things that I discovered after a year of making lifestyle changes (read: dieting) is that there are certain foods that I will happily substitute with a lower-calorie alternative and a certain kind of food that I will not. For instance, I happily chow on sugar free jello and...

“Don’t Call Me Ma’am!” [Oh, It's Tuesday]

Like many women raised by women from the south, I am not all that formal with friends, but I try to be unfailingly polite to strangers. I don’t expect the same from others. In fact, I consider the French person’s and New Yorker’s infamous skills for being rude to people they...

Is It Better to Be Erased Or Stereotyped by White Authors? [Oh, It's T...

FaN blogger Ryan Dixon sent me a link to this Psychology Today article, which was really a response to this blogger’s questioning of the way black people are depicted in speculative fiction. Basically the original argument comes down to so-in-so does such a bad job of writing black...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: Missing Marian Keyes

I was informed in a roundabout way that one of my favorite authors, Lisa Tucker, will be releasing a new novel called THE WINTERS IN BLOOM this September. I was filled with a rush of joy, because Tucker never tells the same story. She tries new things and she makes you have to trust her in...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: Fear of Becoming the Black Grandmother [Politi...

It’s funny, because though I’ve written a book and have at this point written hundreds of blog posts, the post that seems to have resonated most with people is the one I wrote while pregnant, the one in which I worried about how to properly raise a biracial child. People have...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: What Music Are You Looking Forward To?

So back in December I heard “Rolling in the Deep” by Adele for the first time while writing in a cafe. Being a nerd, I used my Shazam app to identify the song, then I went to iTunes and pre-ordered the album without even looking at the release date. Then I proceeded to become...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: IVF Part Deux [The Results]

Ugh, I’ve started and restarted this blog from several different angles at this point. The first attempt was a meditation on worry, and how you do a lot of it between the embryo transfer and getting your pregnancy results. I planned to list all my worries out in a slow reveal of an...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: Sex Sells … Except When It Doesn’t

I wasn’t surprised when I read this Jezebel post about Japanese people becoming increasingly uninterested in sex. One of the things that I noticed while I was living in Osaka, was well … a lot of sex. There was porn manga readily available at bookstores, porn anime readily...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: Your Horoscope Is All Wrong [Sagittarius Baby]

So according to the NEW ZODIAC, I’m not in fact a true blue Capricorn as I’ve always believed, but a Sagittarius on the cusp of Capricorn. It’s funny, because when I studied in China, I was similarly surprised to find out that because of my January birthday, I was actually...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: The Third Year of World War II [Rewriting Agai...

So yesterday I began my third rewrite.  And in many ways, it feels like I’m reporting to you from the trenches of the third year of the U.S.’s involvement in World War II. Allow me to explain this metaphor : Your rough draft feels a lot like 1942. You’re sick of reading...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: How Did I Manage This Last Time? [IVF Part Deu...

So, I guess I’ll do my promised Mexican cruise article tomorrow, since as often happens with IVF, my period came and now my life is fully rotating around my ovulation cycle. It’s kind of like being in a two-week long episode of Private Practice, in which every test and exam has to...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: Working From Home

There are some common complaints that people who work from home have, and I think they’re pretty valid. I don’t miss having to go to an office, but I do miss the office for the following reasons: 1. There are other people in my age bracket at the office. 2. No one ever comes to...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: SEX AND THE CITY 2

Have you ever had lunch with a difficult friend, and she’s going on and on about something that’s pretty much the same variation of every other problem she’s ever had, snd suddenly you think… Wow, you’re selfish, insensitive and offensive. You and I have nothing...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: SPECIAL DELIVERY by Heidi Cullinan [Book 40 of 2010]...

Well, as you might have noticed if you follow Fierce and Nerdy in real time, today’s post is hours late. Long story, but I basically had a writing deadline and woke up this morning to discover I had used all the time I had left on my travel internet — yes, I have travel internet...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: The Tricky Question of Dolls

My daughter, Betty, has been throwing fits lately when I put her hair in two puffs. She cries and kicks and acts as if I’m torturing her. Part of me, wants to say, “You want to talk about painful kid? Try getting your hair pressed with an iron hotcomb, and having your mom slip and...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: The Beta Reader Draft

So sorry about skipping out yesterday. I’m a full month behind on my beta reader draft, and yesterday I had my last book event of the Fall, possibly of the year (but we’re working on something at Writing Pad for December, so maybe not). Either way, it occurs to me that I should talk about my...

Oh, It’ s Tuesday: What Kind of Sick Person Are You?

My whole family has a terrible cold. The baby has it. My MIL has it. CH has it, and perhaps, worse of all, I have it. I say worse of all, because I rarely get sick. The last time I came down with anything beyond a mild 2-day sinus infection was back in 2006. And as anyone who has ever known...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: Why I Don’t Smoke Pot [What a FELA!]

So don’t drop dead of shock or anything, but apparently legendary musician, Fela Kuti, was a huge fan of pot. Not only did he dedicate quite a few songs to the green herb, but it’s basically a full-on character in the bio-musical based on his life, FELA!. However, I don’t...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: The Problem With Light Reading

I’ve been reading a lot of great books lately, and I feel truly blessed. Except… while on the plane back from St. Louis, I was dying to read a romance novel. I haven’t read a good romance novel in like forever. This is partly the industry’s fault. I don’t need...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: Would You Incubate Your Baby?

I was talking the other day with a friend online about second child births. I’m already feeling a little anxious about getting pregnant again in January. I’m aware that Californian moms have a reputation for just loving on pregnancy, but I’m not going to lie, I’m one...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: IL POSTINO

For those in LA….if you can get tickets to Il Postino — the opera version of the movie — GO! Incredibly beautiful, lump in your throat score. [Placido] Domingo at 70 (!) still has it & then some. The two leads are boths tenors — why no one has ever written duets...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: Where Have All the Smart Teen Girls Gone?

Did anyone else catch NO ORDINARY FAMILY last week? The premise of a family that unexpectedly gets super powers is great. And I also liked that the husband and wife are having problems.  [FIRST EPISODE SPOILERS AHEAD] However, the depiction of the teenage daughter really bothered me. She was...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: Good Conversation

To my great surprise, the best part of being out on the road for the book is getting the chance to talk to friends for long unadulterated periods of time. There’s an ugly thread in certain movies, in which women are accused of talking too much (almost always by men). But in my opinion, we...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: Fall TV Is Back!!! [Part 1]

Can I just say that this is like my favorite time of the year. Thank the Lord, Betty and I got CH Eye TV for his Father’s Day gift (after receiving a heavy hint via a “Buy Me This”). At the time we thought it would just benefit him, b/c quite frankly, we still weren’t...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: God is in the Blueprints

If there’s one folk saying that makes me gnash my teeth, it’s the one that goes something along the lines of “Want to make God laugh? Start making plans.” Seriously, how many people do you know who have been blessed with unplanned success? The vast majority of...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: We’re Baaaack

If we were at an airport, I would run to you in slow motion and swing you around in my arms — that’s how much I missed you all. The good news is that we won’t have to be apart again until the holidays. The bad news is that though I’m happy to be back home, I am...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: What’s In A Name When You Don’t Ch...

I’ve been thinking about this blogumn a lot lately just b/c not having the same last name as your husband always becomes a bit more hard to manage when you’re traveling. I know a ton of women who haven’t changed their last names, but apparently a lot of travel professionals...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: Worst Day of the Year (So Far)

Hey Darlings, So I know I promised you pics of the dye job. And once again, I’m falling through. Basically, my MIL went into the hospital yesterday with a godzilla of a stomach flu. She’s going to be fine. They’re just running tons of tests and rehydrating her. But about two...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: Book Thrall

That’s what I call it when I’m so wrapped up in a book that I can’t stop thinking about it and become obsessed with finishing it. If I’m listening to an audiobook in the car, then I ask friends that live in Santa Monica to meet up, just so I have an excuse to take a...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: Gotdang Library Fines!

So I’m dreading going to the library today, because I’ve once again managed to amass large overdue fines –this time while I was out on book tour. I think there are two types of people in this world, those who amass library fines and those who don’t go to the library at...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: “How” Do You Write?

I usually write in bed. In fact, I am writing this in bed, with back support provided to me by my husband — the stuffed kind, which was funnily enough, given to me as a back-saving gift from my real husband when I was pregnant. As for the three hours a day that I dedicate to writing...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: The Glamorous Life

The other day after my Dallas book event, someone told me that I must feel so glamorous, having a book signing with a crowd coming out to you know, see me. I told her it didn’t feel all that glamorous, but when she challenged me with “Really?”, all I could come back with was...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: Puttin’ the Tagline in Your Geek

So because of the book, there are a ton of new people on Fierce and Nerdy these days. Welcome! Welcome! But you’ve probably noticed something strange about this site. That’s right, we’re not actually “puttin’ the chic in your geek.” You see, when I first...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: My First LA Book Signing

Thank you so very, very much to the many who came out for my Barnes & Noble Event at The Grove. I really couldn’t love you guys more for your enthusiastic support, and it was just so nice to have such a great turn out. And for those who couldn’t come, thanks for providing my...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: Say Good-Bye To Yesterday

So remember last week, when I said that we had decided to move from Altadena, and would probably be renting a town home or large apartment next? Well, apparently I lied to you. Not intentionally, it’s just that I wasn’t aware that my family was having a moment of temporary group...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: Starting To Feel A Little Bummed Out…

… I think you know why. This is basically the last week of season finales, and then I’ll be left with … well, pretty much the same thing I had last summer. I’m planning to pick up ROYAL PAINS for another season. And I’ll probably watch the second season of THE...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: When Do You Take Off Your Wedding Ring?

So this Sunday while on vacay in San Diego we were forced to watch The Heartbreak Kid (starring Ben Stiller, directed by The Farrelly Brothers) due to an extreme dearth of real-time television options. Yes, I’m prone to hyperbole, but I really don’t think it’s exaggerating...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: My Trip To Scotland and France

So a few people (okay, my sister) have demanded pics from my trips to Scotland and France. Scotland was wet and cold, which means it must be beyond awesome, b/c I had an amazing time. Pics from left to right: 1) me enjoying a 20yo Highland Park Scotch in the converted library bar at one of...

Oh, It Tuesday: How Does One To Remember To Put Things On One’s ...

For the most part, I think getting older is the bomb. In my opinion, I’m happier, smarter, saner, and more good-looking than I’ve ever been. I still have a few leftover anxiety issues, but even those seem to be getting better with time. And if this is what my 30s are like, I...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: A Week Without Childcare [Day 2]

So I cleaned the kitchen yesterday … and the dining room … and our bedroom … and  the nursery. If you know me IRL, you probably just fell out of your seat, since my somewhat infamous philosophy on cleaning is this: You only need to clean when 1. Not doing so would cause a...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: The Guilt of Leaving [Wassup Scotland!]

So I’m five chapters away from being done with the rough draft of the follow-up to 32 CANDLES, and I just found a fairly cheap ticket to Scotland, which will allow me to stopover in France on my way back to the States. And oh hey, I would be leaving at the end of this month. Since...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: Insomnia Cures

So I’ve been having trouble sleeping for awhile now, due to a combination of anxiety and anticipation. I have no problem getting to sleep, but rare are the nights when I don’t wake up around 5AM in the morning with racing thoughts. But yesterday, I woke up at 2AM. And I...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: Embarrassment Seizures

Today, as I was taking my daily walk and I remembered something embarrassing that I said, and I got what I call an “Embarrassment Seizure.” That’s basically when a wave of embarrassment washes over you and it’s so big, that it actually makes you emit a wounded sound...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: Has This Ever Happened to You?

Yesterday I was in the Carter’s outlet in Pismo Beach, buying WAY to much clothing for one Betty Angela Hibbard. And while my husband and I were justifying the large purchase by saying we were providing her with an entire summer wardrobe as opposed to say being rampant consumerists,...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: A Few Thoughts on GOOD HAIR

So I FINALLY watched Chris Rock’s documentary, Good Hair. I don’t have a lot to say that hasn’t already been said on the subject, but I will mention these few things: 1. Betty can do whatever she wants with her hair, but we’re not paying for it. 2. Non-black women with...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: The Perfect Cuppa Tea

So I’ve recently made the switch from a glass of wine with after-dinner TV to a cup of tea. Wine tastes great and makes me happy, but it’s also 125 calories a glass and it encourages me to say yes to my MIL’s homemade gelato, even if I don’t have any calories left for...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: Does Twilight Have Staying Power?

When I first read this article about how we should expect more Edwards and Bellas in the future b/c of the successful Twilight franchise, it got me to thinking about how right now the trend seems to be old-fashioned names — at least in my friend-group. In fact, while Betty and I were...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: The Happy Feminist

Hmm, well, this ought to be interesting. After getting started late this morning, I saw that our political blogger had decided to write about feminism, too. I haven’t read hers yet, but I’ve been meaning to say a few words about feminism, which I feel has been particularly under...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: WENCH by Dolen Perkins-Valdez [Book 4 of 2010]

Oh guys, wifein’, motherin’, and visitin’-ailing-GIL-in-the-recovery-center-up-in-Santa-Maria ain’t easy, so last week’s book is once again late, but I promise to do better this week. Meanwhile, here are my thoughts on WENCH by Dolen Perkins-Valdez Why I Decided...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: FLATLAND by Edwin A. Abbot [Book 3 of 2010]

My book for last week got read a few days late. Please forgive. But here are my thoughts on FLATLAND by Edwin A. Abbot. Why I Decided To Read It: A couple of weeks ago, this book was mentioned in passing on my favorite sitcom, Big Bang Theory, and I said, “What’s Flatland?”...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: Skin Lightning Creams and Other Compassion FAI...

More interesting than this NYT article about people suffering horrible side-effects from skin lightening cream usage was my reaction to it. “Oh, you hate your dark skin so much that you would lighten your skin with shady creams?” I thought. “Well, then you deserve what you...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: Wow, “Leap Year” is Bad

So Leap Year looked bad in the commercials, but I went to see it at the Mommy & Me movie at Americana yesterday and it was even worse than I expected it to be. All American women movie rom-com cliches, but this time exported to the Irish countryside. First of all the Amy Adams character...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: Back to Being a Nerd Again

So last night, I got home and immediately slipped back into being a nerd. I took my contacts out of my dry eyes and thought about consulting with a doctor about Lasik again. Last time I was told that I was shackled to glasses and contacts for another year or so, b/c my corneas were too thin,...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: What is the Trait You Most Deplore in Yourself...

Alas, so many traits came to mind for for the question of “What is the trait you most deplore in yourself?” that they’ve been battling it out. Over the weekend, when I tried wearing a girdle to my friend’s play, only to have it go excruciating on me by the second act, ...

Oh It’s Tuesday: What is Your Greatest Fear? [Proust Questionnai...

Of all the questions in the PQ, I think this one is the most liquid for me. For a very long time, my greatest fear was failing “to do anything big” before I died. The idea of a wasted life kept me up at night. Then I got married and my greatest fear became something catastrophic...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: What is Your Idea of Perfect Happiness? [Prous...

A series of introspection based on Vanity Fair’s Proust Questionnaire. Oh wow, today’s question is a doozy: What is your idea of perfect happiness? It’s also an interesting question, b/c much as children eventually stop believing in Santa Claus, I have stopped believing in...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: The Church and Money

An interesting thing happened at church the other day. For the first time ever, I almost completely disagreed with a sermon. It started off with a moral-lesson story from the reverend about how she decided to treat herself to a concert in another city, because she “worked hard and...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: Committing to a New Car

So a few weeks ago someone broke into CH’s 80s-era diesel Mercedes, which runs on vegetable oil, and destroyed the door lock. When CH went in to get an estimate on how much it would cost to repair it, it was pretty hefty due to a series of reasons which I was told but promptly forgot...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: Ain’t I A Feminist?

Because I like to rep my hood, a lot of you know that I bleed blue and grey — that is I’m a super-proud graduate of Smith College (or Smithie, as we like to call ourselves). I never really intended to go to an all-women’s college, but I was legacy at Mount Holyoke, thanks to...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: How Do You Spin Biracial?

Now here’s something that I’ve been thinking about a lot lately: How exactly am I going to spin being biracial to Betty? It’s interesting, because I grew up in the wake of the Black Pride movement, and even as formerly Afroed boomers were rushing to get perms and trading in...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: My Least Favorite Myths About My Interracial R...

One of the reasons I’ve been avoiding talking about being in an interracial relationship is because to me it’s no big deal, which is maybe the most surprising thing about being in an interracial relationship. Though neither CH nor I are average, our courtship wasn’t outside...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: I (sheepish smile) Joined a Church

I haven’t really talked about this extensively on the blog or IRL since doing it, but here goes… Don’t drop dead of shock, old friends (especially those who know me mostly as a playwright), but I joined a church. No, not a church of writing, or a church of reason, or a...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: Exercising for Busy People

It’s funny, b/c when I had a full-time job and was exercising regularly, and was writing 32 CANDLES during my off hours, I thought I was busy. But as it turns out, even without the job and a relatively easy rewrite of 32 CANDLES and Fierce and Nerdy, I’m way busier now that I have...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: Mommy Makeover

It all kind of started with my sister. “Now you really look like Mom,” she said, when we sat down for breakfast after I picked her up from the airport. “You mean because of the weight,” I said. “No, I mean because you now have a nurturing spirit that I have never...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: Does Name Really Matter?

So mostly I like our daughter Betty’s handle b/c she is named after my mother. But I also like it b/c I am hoping that like everyone else in my immediate family, she goes into math and/or science. My name is Ernessa, which is uncommon, b/c I’m named after my father and my mother...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: New (School) Year Resolution OR Happy Annivers...

I don’t know about you, but I never quite grew out of thinking of the post-Labor-Day-Fall as a brand new school year. And that always makes me want to make a New School Year Resolution. Now I was a nerd, so after every summer I always vowed to be a new person once I hit school. Each...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: Hair Today, Gone Tomorrow

So my best friend, MMKV from “Political Physics” cut her hair into a pretty fierce “lockhawk” last Friday. And, of course, this wasn’t a decision that came easily. We talked about it for hours, and from what I can tell she receive tons of counsel from her other...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: What Kind of Annoying Facebooker Are You?

Photo Credit: Sarah Perez One of my Facebook friends posted this CNN rundown of the 12 Most Annoying Types of Facebookers w/ the note, “You know who you are!” Well, I definitely know who I am. I’m an unabashed mix of the “The Let-Me-Tell-You-Everything-About-Your-Day...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: I Believe That (IVF) Children Are the Future

“Well, the nice thing about IVF is that your eggs will always be 31,” my OB said at my 6 week post-natal check-up during our discussion about family planning. The thing about our particular fertility problem is that, for whatever reason, there are many cases of it being reversed...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: Friends Don’t Let Presidents Drink Bud L...

Photo Credit: Denis Collete Now I’ll give just about any wine a go. And I often answer, “Surprise me” when bartenders ask me if I want a particular brand of scotch, whisky or bourbon. Well drinks? I ain’t hating! But there is one thing that I don’t truck with and...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: The Short of the Matter

Photo Credit: chooyutshing So it occured to me the other day that I’m finally coming to terms w/ not being tall. When I was seven, I went to the doctor and he told my mother and me that based on my large hands and feet (9.5) and my parents’ height that I would probably grow to be...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: Does Sex Sell Tennis?

This is a cross-post with Deep Into Sports So apparently, the officials at Wimbledon have admitted to taking looks into consideration when making court assignments at Wimbledon. This “sex sells” practice isn’t so surprising, as much that a group would actually admit to doing...

Oh, It’s Tuesday: Hasta La Vista, Vicodin?

Photo Credit: Ebonezer I’ve been offered vicodin a couple of times but have never taken it for fear of becoming one of those soap opera plots where I’m suddenly burning through money, time, doctors and close relationships, trying to score just one more hit of sweet V for the...