How to Be Sad [2011 in Review]

I’ve been thinking a lot about my 2011 resolutions as you do at this time of the year. I got a surprising number of them done and in the bag, including “get pregnant.” However, unlike every year since 2005, I won’t be calling this my best year ever. Mainly, because I...

How to Watch TV [2011 in Review]

Oh my gosh, guess what we just sent out to all our FaN bloggers. That’s right, the end-of-the-year survey. You know I’m just crazy about our bi-annual BOOK WEEKs, but my second favorite two weeks of the FaN season is when we take time out to round up our favorite and least...

HAPPY FEET 2: No Girls(‘ POV) Allowed [Philosophical Monday]

Le sigh. I wanted to love HAPPY FEET 2. I truly enjoyed the first one, and this sequel pretty much had me at baby penguins singing “Mama Said Knock You Out.” However, three things derailed that enjoyment: 1) The super-violent Warner Bros. Sylvester and Tweety short that ran before...

I’m Looking Out for a (Blind) Hero: Books 28, 29, and 30 of 2011...

I know, I know: “What the eff, Ernessa? Why no book reports since the summer?” All I can say is that things got just ridiculously busy, but I do fully intend to get my full 52 reports in by the end of the year. I’ve actually been reading tons to the point that I’m...

HELL ON WHEELS: Fall TV 2011 [Worth Watching?]

I know I said that I wasn’t going to cover new cable shows this Fall, and for the most part I haven’t — though, I’ve heard AMERICAN HORROR STORY is okay to good — but still missing DEADWOOD as I do, I had to give this new AMC show, HELL ON WHEELS at least one...

GRIMM and ALLEN GREGORY: Fall TV 2011 [Worth Watching?]

It occurs to me that I haven’t given a golden DVR ticket to any male-led shows all season. How bizarre. Well, this weekend I had the chance to correct that with the premieres of GRIMM and ALLEN GREGORY. Did they make it on to my DVR? Let’s find out! Overview GRIMM: An NYC...

ONCE UPON A TIME: Fall TV 2011 [Worth Watching?]

I tend to be a little leery of fraternal twins when it comes to Fall TV. For example it took me a whole year to give ER a chance because it premiered at the same time as CHICAGO HOPE. I actually ended up liking both shows — I even watched ER faithfully until its season finale, but still...

Book Grief [Philosophical Monday]

I’ve spoken a lot about book thrall on this blog, but I think I’ve yet to talk about book grief, which is strange because book grief and book thrall go hand and hand. My definition: Book Grief is when you remain bummed for days that a book is over. You mourn the end of the book,...

Real Talk about REAL STEEL [Philosophical Monday]

So, REAL STEEL is interesting, in that it seems to have had a somewhat polarizing effect on couples. You either really wanted to see it (me) or really didn’t want to see it (CH). At the same time, it’s not like, say MIDNIGHT IN PARIS, a movie, which you’d be perfectly...

WHITNEY, A GIFTED MAN, and PAN AM Reviews: Fall TV 2011 [Worth Watchin...

Yesterday I got home and watched three shows, none of which will be added to my queue. So let’s discuss WHITNEY, A GIFTED MAN, and PAN AM … with a bunch of sighing: Overview WHITNEY: An anti-marriage photographer navigates her three-year relationship with a nice guy who owns an...

Remembering 9/11 [Philosophical Monday]

Ten years and one day ago I was running late to school. I had never been great with punctuality, and my second year in a grad program hadn’t changed that. I rushed through my morning routine, only to then have to wait for a bus that seemed to take forever to come. This, I think, is when...

To MFA or Not to MFA? – Girlfriends Book Club [Philosophical Mon...

“Should I get an MFA?” — that’s a recurring question that comes up from the aspiring writers that I meet a lot. I don’t have an MFA in Creative Writing. Like quite a few novelists these days, I have an MFA in Dramatic Writing (writing for stage and screen)....

What Children’s Show Do You Just Freaking Hate? [Philosophical Monday]...

Last week, T.E. posted a trailer for upcoming THE AQUABATS SUPER SHOW, which might as well be called the show that only got greenlit, b/c the co-creator of YO GABBA GABBA (a very popular Nick Jr. show) is the lead singer of The Aquabats. Having watched a lot of YO GABBA GABBA vicariously...

Red Red Wine [Philosophical Monday]

I’m usually pretty good at monitoring my alcohol intake, but two things happened at the wedding I attended on Saturday night: 1) I got embroiled in a great conversation with the people sitting on my left, and 2) The catering staff was so good, it took me quite a while to realize that...

How to Be a Hypocrite OR Yesterday in Tweets [Philosophical Monday]

10AM: Right before getting on the first leg of my flight to Chicago (ORD) Finally giving the revamped @ebonymag a read on the flight back LA. Let’s see… EBONY turned out to be pretty good! We’ll definitely pick one up for the flight to my St. Louis reading next month. Had...

XY with Several Chromosomal Abnormalities [Philosophical Monday]

I think the hardest part of IVF is how plain spoken it is. You know that aunt or uncle you have, who’s all straight talk and says stuff like “I tell it like it is” in a hideously self-righteous way, while whoever s/he just straight talked cries in the kitchen? Yeah, well,...

I Wish I Hadn’t Read the Book [Philosophical Monday]

So I finally went to see the final Harry Potter movie last night and …. well it was good. It was fine. Really it was. It was just that throughout the entire affair, I kept on thinking that I would have enjoyed every part of the movie a lot more if I hadn’t read the book. This was...

The Winners of the 32 CANDLES Paperback Contest and other News

Hello Fellow Fierce Nerds, After a brutal flight back from Hawaii — having a toddler on an overnight flight is always a ton of fun — here are the four bright spots in an otherwise overcast (and seriously sleepy) morning: 1. Fierce and Nerdy is BACK! So happy as we missed you soooo...

New (to Me) Music [Philosophical Monday]

Re: Motherhood, I can get over all the dirty diapers (now that we’ve potty-trained) and waking up at 6AM, even though I’m supposed to be a bohemian writer. I’m okay with the fact that I drink less and don’t have as much time to do the things I enjoy like read physical...

X-MEN: FIRST CLASS Review [Philosophical Monday]

When T.E. reported on Friday that X-MEN: FIRST CLASS was getting all sorts of great reviews, I got a bit excited and wondered if this would be the movie that would turn the summer around for me action-wise. I’m a big James McAvoy fan, and I loved the thought of getting to see the...

No Philosophical Monday Due to Potty Training

So after a look at our summer schedules, we saw that the only free weekend we both had to potty train our daughter before she starts preschool in the Fall was this long one. The process has been both harder and easier than we thought it would be. Easier because it’s basically cleaning...

Dubious Talents [Philosophical Monday]

You know what I love? Dubious talents. I’m talking about those talents that one doesn’t work to cultivate, those talents that others don’t necessarily acknowledge as  talents, but when it comes right down to it, definitely are. I bring this up, because we had something...

BRIDESMAIDS REVIEW [Philosophical Monday]

I don’t want to call my favorite movie of the year yet, since most of the Oscar fare won’t be released until the latter months of 2011 and I have a short attention span. But BRIDESMAIDS is definitely my favorite movie of the year so far. Here are five things that I just loved...

Are You a Pioneer? [Philosophical Monday]

This BBC News article about astronomers identifying 54 potentially habitable planets got me to thinking, and what I ended up concluding was this: I’m not a pioneer. I won’t be in the first wave of people that travel to these new planets. I’ll never be the first person to...

How to Try Again [Philosophical Monday]

After deciding to move to a more desirable neighborhood (read: not a suburb), we had to give up a few amenities, like our guest room/home gym in the basement. Yet, we were both also determined to continue losing weight. So despite having never managed to have made full use of a gym membership...

Writing Music [Philosophical Monday]

I don’t know why I always feel the need to cite past blogs that I’ve done whenever I recover a subject, even if that blog was years and years ago, but for whatever reason I do. So I’m just going to say, for all fifty of you that used to read my personal blog back in the day,...

SOURCE CODE and YOUR HIGHNESS Movie Reviews [Philosophical Monday]

YOUR HIGHNESS Other than the blatant sexism, woman-based ageism, Danny McBride’s general mien and delivery, rape jokes (hilarious!), and the ridiculous amounts of gay jokes (attn: straight male comedians – this meme is way past it’s due date, please start coming up with...

SUPER Movie Review [Philosophical Monday]

It seemed that I kept on reading about this indie movie, SUPER, starring Rainn Wilson (best known as Dwight Schrute from THE OFFICE) and Ellen Page (a now-perennial favorite of mine). But I hadn’t bothered to watch the trailer or even read any of the SUPER-related posts, so when my...

The Awkward Side of Dropping 40 Pounds [Philosophical Monday]

We live in a culture where dropping 40 pounds is supposed to solve all your problems, make you feel like you can do anything, and moreover make you feel GREAT! But I’ve been 40 pounds lighter for almost three months now, and while I welcome the extra energy that comes from being at my...

Open or Closed Door? [Philosophical Monday]

Maybe it was b/c I shared a room with my sister until the age of of 13. But as long as I can remember having a room of my own, I have much preferred a closed door. If I’m going to be in a room for more than fifteen minutes, I close the door. I only had my own office for two years, but I...

IVF Part Tres Update: Hearts Fully Braced [Philosophical Monday]

So we had to make a few complicated decisions when deciding our new IVF protocol. First of all, let me update you on the situation as it stands: I thought we had 8 embryos in storage, but that was because I wasn’t paying as much attention as I should have been during the process....

IVF Part Tres Update [Philosophical Monday]

So as of this writing, I’m waiting for my period, which usually comes on Sunday or Monday. Then the day after I get my period, I go into the doctor’s office for an exam. At this exam, the doctor does an ultrasound to make sure that both my uterus and ovaries are good to go for the...

CAMELOT on Starz Channel: Philosophical Monday

Okay, well the CAMELOT redux has sneak-previewed its first episode on the Starz Channel. I’m a nerd. I’m a British scif-fi nerd. Jonathan Worth, the head writer of CAMELOT, previously did stints on TORCHWOOD and LIFE ON MARS. I should have adored this series opener, except I...

Philosophical Monday: What Kind of Dresser Are You?

The other day I decided to write at a nearby grocery store as opposed to my usual Starbucks, and — small world! — ran into editor mate and fellow author, Attica Locke (BLACK WATER RISING). Now normally I’m happy to run into someone I know while out and about, but in this...

Philosophical Monday: Finishing up, Thank You, and Happy ValentineR...

First, I’m finishing up the last big draft of THE AWESOME GIRL’S GUIDE TO DATING EXTRAORDINARY MEN, and I’ll have to to hunker down if I want to get it off to the copy editor on time. This is the rather interesting part of the process, where you’re both satisfied with...

Philosophical Monday: A Very Early Miscarriage [IVF Part Tres]

[Ed. Note: This will be my only blogumn this week, but it's super-long, and I'll be back next Monday.] Remember how last Tuesday, I said that an IVF pregnancy is very different from a non-IVF pregnancy? As it turns out, a IVF miscarriage is also very different from a non-IVF miscarriage....

Philosophical Monday: Cleaning

Don’t drop dead of shock, but I’ve found a new passion: cleaning. Yes, I said, cleaning. Did I just hear the thumps of several of my IRL friends as their bodies hit the floor. Dangit, I told you NOT to drop dead of shock. Let me explain how this all came about. First, due to a...

Philosophical Monday: I Wish I Had a Tiger Mom

I find the controversy over this “tiger mom” Wall Street Journal article interesting in that I had maybe a different reaction to it than most. My initial thoughts went in this order: Man, though I would love to have Betty grow up to be an Intel Science Talent Search award winner...

Philosophical Monday: The Birthday Bestseller List

So HERE’S the bestseller list from the year I was born. And here’s how many books I’ve read on it: 0. No, I haven’t read ROOTS. It’s on my list. Somehow, it never got assigned to me, and I’m kind of bad about reading books that weren’t written within...

Philosophical Monday: Reason #1 For Parking Tickets

When I depended on street parking, I used to get parking tickets all the time for leaving my car on the wrong side of the street on street cleaning days. But now that I’ve been living either in a residential area or in a place with a dedicated garage for almost two years, I’ve...

Philosophical Monday: Welcome Back, Carter … And T.E.

Were we only apart for two weeks? It feels like two months! I’ve got a big post on our Mexican cruise coming up tomorrow. But first a bit of housekeeping for 2011. First of all, we’ve got the return of Monique King-Viehland from “Political Physics” and R.B. Ripley from...

Philosophical Monday: I Cut Off All My Hair

So I cut off all my hair — yes, again. I had been thinking about doing so for a while now. The last time I cut my hair (got rid of my locs and rocked a small fro) I got pregnant, I got an agent, I got a book deal. In 2011, I’m hoping to get pregnant and to sell the two books that...

Philosophical Monday: New Project Fear

Ugh! I’ve officially not written for five whole days. If you’re not familiar with my much self-described writing practice, I start spiraling into a really unattractive version of myself if I go more than 72 hours without writing. I get bleak, I get depressed, I ask questions like...

Philosophical Monday: THREE JUNES by Julia Glass [Book 39 of 2010]

Welcome to BOOK WEEK 2 everyone! Here’s the dealy: I have 13 more books to read and review for you by December 31 — totally doable; I assure you. So every day this week, I’ll be bringing you my thoughts on a different book. And all of our other posts will be book-centric,...

Philosophical Monday: The Importance of Being Nice

For the most part I agree with this Seth Godin post, in which he says that it doesn’t matter if people like you, only that they like your work. In many ways being a writer is great, b/c it doesn’t matter if I’m boring or nerdy or awkward, people are either going to like 32...

Philosophical Monday: Blame the Next Book For No Philosophical Monday

Hey Guys! Deep into my beta reader edit of my second women’s fiction novel, which I’m supposed to be sending off to my manuscript editor tomorrow, so I’m going to have to abandon you today. Back in full force tomorrow, tho. 100% Love! etc

Philosophical Monday: MEGAMIND [It's hard out here for a feminist]

Guys, I tried to enjoy MEGAMIND. I really did. However, I couldn’t help but be disappointed that in 2010 the one (and sadly, I mean that literally, there was really only one) woman with any speaking lines in this movie was only good for encouraging the guys in the movie to be heroes and...

Philosophical Monday: Refusal of the Call [What a FELA!]

So thanks to constant nudging from the fabulous Gina Ko, I ended up seeing FELA! yesterday. It doesn’t seem enough to say that it was a revelation or that I spent near bout the entirety of the second act in tears. No, to do it justice, I pretty much have to talk about it all week. Yes,...

Philosophical Monday: Loops

So this week is going to be a bit wiggy since I’m off my routine. Usually I preset the week of blogumns, writing all of my personal blogumns on Sunday night, so that outside of blog promotion, my week can be dedicated to novel writing. The weekend is spent with Fierce and Nerdy, the...

Philosophical Monday: Party Anyway

So yesterday we went to a 2yo’s birthday party. The party was gorgeous with doggie-themed decorations and these clever little gift bags and a to-die-for kids table and a Sesame-Street-themed inflatable bounce house. Everything a toddler could hope for. The only thing was it was raining....

Philosophical Monday: This Is What Happened Next…

Our first kitten, Baxter, was stolen by our upstairs neighbor in a fit of pique, after we turned our duplex into a single-family. We shrugged it off. Their young daughter adored Baxter and we figured he was better off with the little girl. Two years after taking an old indoor/outdoor cat...

Philosophical Monday: My Pet (Word) Peeve [Trying]

There is no other word that I hate more on the planet than “try.” It feels weak to me, and whenever someone (including myself) says something like, “I’m trying to lose weight,” or “I’m trying to finish my novel,” I doubt both their sincerity and effort. Life has been so much better since I...

Philosophical Monday: This Is What Happened [Tulip]

This is what happened. Tulip had a seizure. It was very scary. But then she was given baby food, which perked her right back up and we were told that it looked like she had a tumor that was keeping her from producing enough insulin. We could go on our Hawaii vacation, but she would have to...

Philosophical Monday: Finally Went and Saw SCOTT PILGRIM [Movie Review...

Finally went and saw SCOTT PILGRIM for an impromptu date night, and a few things occurred to me while watching it. 1. I think I might be officially over Michael Cera. His usual schtick undermines his performance here and it’s gotten to the point that I seriously wonder whether he can...

Philosophical Monday: Big Things Poppin – HUGE News re: 32 Candl...

I think it’s fairly obvious why I chose the below as one of my FaN Favorites: From May 4, 2009 Photo by Kalimba Bennett So as you may or may not have noticed, I haven’t been talking about the writing process much lately. Many of you might have thought this was because I got sick...

Philosophical Monday: The Big Chop

So those new hairdo pictures I promised on Monday? They’re actually coming tomorrow due to a tight schedule. Sorry about that! Meanwhile, please visit Black Girl Long Hair to check out my guest post about how I came to big chop my locs in the first place. This all has many wondering how...

Philosophical Monday: What’s Up With 32 CANDLES? [5 Things]

Hey, guys, just a few 32 CANDLES items today, then I’ll get back to my regular blogs for the rest of the week. 1. Hey-oh, I’ve been nominated in the category of “Author of the Year – Female” for the African American Literary Awards Show. Voting is easy and open...

Philosophical Monday: And Our New Tagline Is…

. We’ve got your geek right here. . It barely won, and when I say “barely,” I mean by like only 2 votes, so apparently a lot of people are not happy about the changeover to a new tagline. But we’re debuting the site redesign on September 6, just in time for our...

Philosophical Monday: Make New Friends OR Keep The Old?

Okay, so “We’ve got your geek right here” won by a very narrow margin over “Geek and destroy.” HOWEVER, I’ve received a few offline, email, and Facebook messages from folks claiming to like the original tagline. So… I guess we ought to do one more...

Philosophical Monday: Let’s Pick a New Tagline!

Big thanks to those who weighed in about possible new taglines for Fierce and Nerdy. There were so many good suggestions that I gave them half the slots. But in the end, our new tagline will be entirely up to you, dear readers, so do pick well in the poll below. Geekily yours, etc What Should...

Philosophical Monday: GTRL on Summer Hiatus [Listen to the Wave Machin...

Hey Guys! I adore GTRL. It was the very first thing I ever wrote for Fierce and Nerdy. But unfortunately, the closer I get to the book launch the less time I have. And since after cutting GTRL last week, the numbers not only didn’t suffer, but also went up to the point that we...

Philosophical Monday: The Politics of Spoiling

I don’t want to be insensitive, but is there really anyone who expected to watch LOST at their own leisure without spoilers? I watched it in real time yesterday, which felt surreal, since we’re one of those nerd families who will pause a show for 30 minutes and do something else...

Philosophical Monday: Not So Happy Mother’s Day

So I hate Mothers Day, have done so since my mother died in 1996, and I realized that what used to be a cute little holiday, was acutally a 2-4 week reminder that I no longer had a living mother. It’s not a time when I’m at my best. I have little to no tolerance for friends who...

Philosophical Monday: Learning to Swim

This Saturday, by husband will don a pair of swim trunks and take our daughter to her first swim class, and so the real teaching begins. All of my adult life, I’ve thought about lessons I’d like to pass down to my children: The Golden Rule, Respecting Money vs. Loving or Hating...

Philosophical Monday: A Week Without Childcare

So my MIL is currently enjoying a week in Las Vegas, complete with a Cher concert and a ton of penny slots. And so that means no childcare this week. I’m determined not to get depressed and completely abandon you this time, though. I’m a stronger mother now, and perhaps more...

Philosophical Monday: When to Disney?

So CH and I have been low-grade arguing about this since before Betty was born. Basically I hate Disneyland — it’s too clean and sterile and 50s. Whatever. But CH feels exactly the opposite. Before Betty was born this wasn’t an issue, b/c it didn’t seem cruel for me to...

Philosophical Monday: The Best Laid Plans Ignored

So you know how a lot of parents want their kids to hit all of the milestones early in order to prove that they’re special, to set them ahead of the competitive pack ahead of time? Well, I might have been one of those parents, but then Betty started sitting up. And I realized that every...

Philosophical Monday: Three More Months

So the funny thing about having a book come out on the same day as your baby’s birthday is that they kind of get entwined. This morning I woke up thinking, “Three More Months…” Three more months until Betty turns one. Three More Months until 32 CANDLES makes its debut....

Philosophical Monday: The New-New Controversy – The First Word

Okay, why come nobody told me that there is always a little controversy surrounding baby’s first word. While in the womb, Betty was told by her mother who was sick of carrying her around after 37 weeks, that her first word had betta be “mama” — you know in compensation...

Philosophical Monday: How Not To Raise A Night Owl?

Over at BabySmiling in Back Seat, they’re talking about things you don’t want your baby to inherit from you. The list is so long for me, and I’ve already covered most of it here, but just in case you’re not a regular reader: my artistic passion, my ridiculously short...

Philosophical Monday: How to Nicely Not Volunteer

So one the of things that attracted us to our church as a then-childless couple was the promise of a nursery during service. However, this was before we found out that the one thing Betty would not “grow out of” was her aversion to being handled by strangers. She likes to look at...

Philosophical Monday: The Happy Feminist Mother

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how to raise daughters with feminist ideals. There are so many examples of mothers who do big things in their careers only to have their daughters turn around and opt not to do the same. Erica Kennedy, the writer of Feminista, actually wrote a great...

Philosophical Monday: Enjoy Them Now

One of the more unsettling things that strangers have said to me while out with Betty is, “Oh, what a great age. Enjoy them now.” What a strange thing to say, I thought. Why do people keep on entreating me to enjoy Betty now? What happens later? Meanwhile, the Jaws theme is...

Philosophical Monday: The Good Voices in Your Head

It’s interesting how you’ll read something randomly, and you have no idea how much it will come to mean later on in your life. Back in 2004 or 2005 — I can’t remember which — I read a wonderful Mother’s Day article about a woman who found herself hearing...

Philosophical Monday: Eye of the Betty

So as many of my Facebook friends already know, Betty was miserably sick from Tuesday to Thursday, then we took her to the doctor on Friday to find out that she had an ear infection and would need antibiotics. And now she’s on the happy mend. What’s been kind of amazing about...

Philosophical Monday: Good Enough for Me

I know you might find this hard to believe, but sometimes I look at the blank screen for my daily column and I think to myself, “I have nothing to say.” Today, I wrote “Philosophical Monday” in my title bar and I thought, “I have absolutely nothing left to say...

Philosophical Monday: Routines and Other Little Things

So when I was trying to figure out a schedule that would allow me to spend time with Betty, write, run Fierce and Nerdy, and if possible, spend some time with my husband when he came home at night, I didn’t find very many resources. They all seemed designed for complete stay-at-home...

Philosophical Monday: The Division of Labor on Vacation

One of the most interesting aspects of going to Hawaii with a baby has been splitting the baby work w/ my husband. Since I’m a write-at-home mom, it’s usually my MIL and I doing the majority of the work, with CH taking care of Betty in the mornings — she’s asleep by...

Philosophical Monday: Happy Christmas Eve!

So you’re probably wondering why I have a Christmas Eve pic up as the mood photo. Well, here’s what happened: CH and I decided to go to Hawaii with Betty for the holidays, so we said that we weren’t going to decorate or get a tree this year, since we weren’t actually...

Philosophical Monday: The Princess & The Frog [Interracial Relati...

Is this the #1 trending topic among black bloggers are what? I saw this movie yesterday and absolutely loved it. The songs weren’t quite as there as other Disney movies, and I wished that they had hired a Broadway team as opposed to Randy Newman, whose music I’ve always liked but...

Philosophical Monday: The Three Tools I Wish I Had Known About BEFORE ...

So Betty is 6 months old today in medical terms at least — according to our insurance company, she won’t be 6 months until Dec. 22nd, which means she won’t be able to get her 6 month check-up until then — one day before we’re supposed to get on a plane for our...

Philosophical Monday: My First Mother-Inflicted Injury

So it looks like I’ve strained one of my back muscles, which is making it hard to do everything from picking up Betty to sitting down quickly to laughing or sneezing. I’m not only annoyed as I have like no time to nurse my stoopid back, but I’m also fairly chagrinned that...

Philosophical Monday: Your Facebook Pic [Baby or No Baby]

Hey Guys, I’ve decided to abandon the Month of Advice, because on second thought, I wasn’t all that excited about it. So if you’re wondering, “Hey, why no advice?” That’s why. In other news, a dilemma did come up yesterday. I took two pictures of Betty of...

Philosophical Monday: It’s Time for Some Advice OR Flying With B...

I just wanted to thank you guys once again for making our Month of Minefields so ridiculously awesome. I really appreciated reading your comments on a range of topics that we hadn’t really talked about before, and I am convinced now more than ever that Fierce and Nerdy has the best...

Philosophical Monday: The Imperfect Family

Greetings from St. Louis! I’ve been here for three days, and I must say that being with family now that I have a daughter of my own has been an interesting experience. First of all, there is something about a baby that turns your family into a font of unsolicted advice. There was the 30...

Philosophical Monday: This Biracial Baby Business

So by far one of my most popular posts has been “Raising Biracial Children,” which I wrote before I had any actual Biracial children living outside my womb or the gleam in my eye. I suspected as I was writing it that my perspective would change once I actually had said child, and...

Philosophical Monday: Black and White is the New Gray

So it’s been interesting having my BFF and her husband in town for Betty’s baptism. Quite frankly, I understand why community living was so popular in the 70s. It’s been really nice always having people around to pick up the extra slack. I ran around after by BFF’s...

Philosophical Monday: A Month of Minefields

So we’ve gone over how I curse like a sailor and how I need to start a curse jar or somethin’ unless I want Betty to be one of those children that cusses on a regular basis. I personally find kids like that hilarious. However, the hubby put the kibosh on raising a Seth MacFarlane...

Philosophical Monday: The Great Wide Betty

It’s funny, because when we were getting ready for Betty to come, we often told people that it was like throwing a wedding all over again. We had a list of weekend-consuming things that we had to buy for the big event, lessons and all sorts of consultations, and a pre-party thrown by...

Philosophical Monday: It’s Time to Make a Will

So this Wednesday, CH and I are meeting with a lawyer to draw up a will. A will is suggested for everyone, and once you get married, the gentle suggestion becomes a little firmer. But once you bring children into the equation, well then you start pressuring yourself. Usually, I love planning...

Philosophical Monday: Emmy Edition or Bye-Bye Ms. American Pumpkin Pie

So by popular (if by popular you mean a couple of people said that it might be cool) demand, today’s usual baby-centered post is being pre-empted by the Creative Arts Emmys. Saturday morning I woke up in a wet shirt. Apparently I had turned over onto my side during the night and one of...

Philosophical Monday: Inherit the Longwindedness or Is Betty Left-Hand...

So my father and stepmother came to visit Betty this weekend, which was interesting on a few levels. I think every girl worries about becoming like her mother and I’ve certainly inherited quite a few of my mother’s bad traits, including talking too much, worrying too much, ...

Philosophical Monday: Stranger Engager or “How Old Is That Baby ...

So far there’s been one huge unexpected side effect to having a baby: having to talk to a ton of strangers. You see, I’m one of those people who almost never starts up conversations with strangers due to shyness and intense focus when I’m out and about — I don’t...

Philosophical Monday: Not So King of the Road

Hey-ho! We’re back from our road trip to Santa Fe and back. I’ve been joking on Facebook that this was basically guerilla diaper-changing training, but that pretty much nails it. Somehow I had never noticed the lack of changing tables in all but the family friendliest of...

Philosophical Monday: Dubious Achievements or How I Finally Broke Down...

“This is the first time that I ever had a girl pee on me,” the babysitter informed us, when we got back from our second official date night. CH laughed, and I said, “Good job, Betty” in the chagrinned way of a mother whose baby has just peed (and later spit-up) on her...

Philosophical Monday: Baby Interuptus or Is There Anything Such as a C...

Sorry, sorry, guys. Not able to turn in my behind-the-scenes Jimmy Kimmel report due to time constraints — read Betty’s waking up. But I promise to tell you all about it later in the week. Meanwhile, I want to make these three observations about new motherhood: DY-NO-MITE! 1. You...

Philosophical Monday: Level 3 in the New Mother Game or Do I Smell Des...

So CH goes back to work tomorrow and in many ways it feels like this new motherhood thing is really about to begin, because I’ll be on my own with Betty for the first time. This wouldn’t be quite as completely terrifying if there weren’t a few important things that I...

Philosophical Monday: New Motherhood or How I Learned to Do Just About...

Not to sound too much like an airport bearhug, but man did I miss you guys! I’m just happy to be back, and so many thanks to our beyond awesome slpc for being the best guest editor ever (even if she did give full GTRL points where I would not have). First, let’s tackle the...

Philosophical Monday: Here’s Betty!

So by the time you read this, I’ll probably have delivered Betty. And hopefully if I wasn’t able to liveblog the pregnancy, I at least sent you a few updates. Anyway, I’m writing this last Tuesday, so I have no idea how this will all turn out yet, but it occurs to me (last...

Philosophical Monday: The Things We Threw Away

This story about an Israeli daughter who threw out an old mattress that she later found out had her mother’s lifesavings in it (over a million USD) stopped my heart cold. You see while my sister inherited my father’s packrat gene, I totally inherited my mother’s love of...