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Mas Macho! Ask Dr. Miro [What You Didn’t Learn in Health Class]
Dear Dr. Miro,
I love my sensitive boyfriend. I really do. He is amazing in so many ways but sometimes I wish he could be more manly. How do I get him to be more macho?
Sincerely,
Woman Wants Man
Dear WWM,
This is an all too common issue for more and more women these days. Lines are blurring on what is and is not “manly” which can be both positive and negative. On one hand you want somebody who is sensitive to your needs, a great listener and an all around good (though often somewhat weenie) guy. On that other hand, it can feel really good to be caught up with a strong jerk of a stereotype.
Here is the key: you can not and will not change him. He is what he is. If you truly love Hombre Sensitivo, as you say you do, learn to accept him for who HE is – not who you hope he will be someday. Whether he is a big lovable wimp or your adored lug of a He-Man, you are not going to change him. Decide what you can and cannot live with and go from there.
Lust & Happiness,
Dr. Miro
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Another fantastic answer. I 100% agree. After I made the decision to stop dating (as opposed to trying to change) a person if I didn’t like who he was as is, my life got so much easier.
It’s amazing how something so seemingly obvious can be such a difficult matter! Really, it is only obvious to people outside of the relationship. When you are inside there, it much more complicated because it is about YOU.
I wanted to make mention for all my Spanish speaking friends out there: I know it should be Hombre Sensible and that sensitivo does not translate accurately, but I like the way it sounds…