Meaningful VS Boring Sex! [Ask Dr. Miro: What You Didn’t Learn In Health Class]

Dear Dr. Miro,

When I was in a relationship with a girl for about two years the sex was not good, I mean it was OK but not great. I could get hard and perform and everything except I couldn’t cum. After a while I decided to cheat and the sex was amazing so I ended the other relationship.

Then THAT sex got boring and I stopped cumming every time so I ended that one too. This keeps happening, or not happening, I guess. Does this mean I will never be able to have a meaningful relationship because I NEED great sex?

I’m a 22 year-old man and feel I should be able to do this.

Sincerely,
Where’s The One Who Will Rock My World?

Dear WTOWWRMW?,

This all depends on your definition of “great sex.” If what you find makes your sexual experience amazing is being with a new person then, at this juncture in time, yes: you may have trouble finding a meaningful relationship that involves incredible sex.

If getting to know someone takes the mystery and excitement out of your hot nights, and you do not want to bother figuring out how to keep things new and fresh, you may have to forgo serious couplings at this juncture. Perhaps you are not ready to have a long-term monogamous partnership. That is OK. Go with that.

What is your need to have a steady girlfriend? Seeing as you are twenty-two, try enjoying yourself and not get too hung up on needing to settle down. If this problem persists six years from now, you may need to take stock of your situation. Think about what it is making your interactions boring. Are you feeling confined or distracted?

It may be that you are confusing the thrill of the chase with actual desire for a person. That would make your interest wane as soon as you feel these ladies are becoming attached. Sometimes when you feel bored it is because you are boring.

Other times it is because you were wrong about what you actually want.

Lust & Happiness,
Dr. Miro