Oh, It’s Tuesday: Would You Incubate Your Baby?
I was talking the other day with a friend online about second child births. I’m already feeling a little anxious about getting pregnant again in January. I’m aware that Californian moms have a reputation for just loving on pregnancy, but I’m not going to lie, I’m one of those people who enjoyed the result WAY more than I enjoyed the pregnancy. I’m concerned about being tired all the time again. When folks ask me the “how do you do it all” question, I answer, eyes-open-wide: “Buttloads of coffee.” So yeah, I’m not too happy about giving up my perfect sidekick come January. Then there’s the fear about even being able to get pregnant a second time, since it was rather difficult the first go-round. And even if it’s as easy as we hope it will be, since this time our embryo is all set and ready to go, thanks to the first IVF treatment, I circle back round to the energy question. Ya’ll, I need my energy. I have no idea how I’m going to get by without it.
But we’re going through with the January date anyway, mostly because of biological imperative — I believe in siblings. But also because of morbidity. CH and I both have parents who died before we got together and that would have been hard to go through without a sibling. And also because it’s not like I’m not going to need my energy in 2012 (which is hopefully when the second book will release) or 2013 (which is hopefully when the third book will release). 2014, 2015, and 2016 aren’t looking like low-energy years either. So I might as well do it now.
During the first pregnancy I joked that if it were up to me I would put the baby in an incubator and go’on about my business, watching her grow while I went about my business until she was fully cooked and ready to come out. I was joking back then, but not so much now. Seriously if the option were available to me and the science was proven (like IVF), I’d definitely give it go. But what say you other moms, moms-to-be, and someday-moms? If the option were available, would you incubate your baby as opposed to carrying it yourself? Sound off in the comments!
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I Have four girls and if I had to do it all over again I would still do it the same way inside my belly…It is something very natural and special about know and feeling a baby growing inside of you. Yea the the tiredness and other stuff that goes along with pregnancy was hard and I had four difficult pregnancies, but I wouldnt have it any other way…I think its a bonding thing….
Well, I know adoptive moms who share the same quality bond that I have with Betty. And I think my husband has a very high-quality bond with her. Not sure I buy the bonding expo.
No I would not incubate. I have four sons and each of my pregnancies was a joy! I also had very easy labors, WITH NO ANESTHESIA, so maybe I’m biased. But I think that there is something to feeling your child growing inside you and going thru the process of birthing them. I believe that it flips a “primordial switch” that instills that “kill or die” instinct in caring for and protecting our children.
Yes, I’m hoping that by exercising and eating right that I will be able to enjoy my pregnancy much more this time around. I’m worried about being able to play with my toddler the way I play with her now, and I’m also worried about having enough energy to perform at the top of my ability. We’ll see. But like I told Jirby4u, I think adoptive moms have that same “kill or die” instinct, so I wouldn’t be worried about that.