Dec22
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One More Thing Before We Go: An Important Hypothetical Facebook Question
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A Proof of Nerd ID by Howard Leder
I’ve been hearing a lot of people lately ask: I have all these random friends on facebook. People I barely knew in high school. People I don’t like. Can I drop them without them knowing?? What happens???
Would it send out a message: you’re dead to me?
A friend & I tested it. Film @ 11.
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i worried about this, too, until i took someone off my friends list and felt infinitely better.
This is why I refrain from accepting friend requests from people I barely know. Or those folks from high school that I did not talk to then, but who all of a sudden want to be my friend….yeah right. Although, that did not stop me from asking Pauley Perrette ("Abby") from NCIS to be my friend. I had to try it. Hey, just because I have staunch rules about random friends doesn't mean other people do.
I make myself basically invisible to avoid random friend requests, but I did recently dump a couple of people from my friend list. It said they wouldn't get a message, but not sure what happens if they ever try to send me a message or anything, but I'm okay with burning those bridges.
I don't regret any of the high school ones. I'm friends now with a bunch of people I went to high school with that I didn't even speak to then, and don't remember, and in fact only figued out that I went to high school with them because of info on their profiles or the fact that all my high school friends were friends with them. But for me it's just about keeping tabs. Even if we have no relationship other than the fact that we present in the same time and place many years ago, that is a relationship of sorts. It's a relationship for which the Facebook friendship is exactly appropriate, to me. I know they're there. If I want to contact them I can. If I don't want to I don't have to. It means no more than it means, and no less.
However, I did allow myself to become friends with some people I had no relationship to whatssoever who were clearly just trolling for friends, and they can be annoying. I may winnow them out. That might be fun.
i worried about this, too, until i took someone off my friends list and felt infinitely better.
This is why I refrain from accepting friend requests from people I barely know. Or those folks from high school that I did not talk to then, but who all of a sudden want to be my friend….yeah right. Although, that did not stop me from asking Pauley Perrette ("Abby") from NCIS to be my friend. I had to try it. Hey, just because I have staunch rules about random friends doesn't mean other people do.
I make myself basically invisible to avoid random friend requests, but I did recently dump a couple of people from my friend list. It said they wouldn't get a message, but not sure what happens if they ever try to send me a message or anything, but I'm okay with burning those bridges.
I don't regret any of the high school ones. I'm friends now with a bunch of people I went to high school with that I didn't even speak to then, and don't remember, and in fact only figued out that I went to high school with them because of info on their profiles or the fact that all my high school friends were friends with them. But for me it's just about keeping tabs. Even if we have no relationship other than the fact that we present in the same time and place many years ago, that is a relationship of sorts. It's a relationship for which the Facebook friendship is exactly appropriate, to me. I know they're there. If I want to contact them I can. If I don't want to I don't have to. It means no more than it means, and no less.
However, I did allow myself to become friends with some people I had no relationship to whatssoever who were clearly just trolling for friends, and they can be annoying. I may winnow them out. That might be fun.