http://fierceandnerdy.com/philosophical-monday-the-good-voices-in-your-head We've got your geek right here Wed, 23 May 2012 01:35:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://fierceandnerdy.com/philosophical-monday-the-good-voices-in-your-head/comment-page-1#comment-9872 MMKV Tue, 09 Feb 2010 22:13:52 +0000 http://fierceandnerdy.com/?p=13443#comment-9872 I definitely hear my mother's voice in my head (mostly because she calls me everyday). But what really resonated with me was the realization that I also hear my Nana Mary's voice, who passed away more than seven years ago, in my head as well. I definitely hear my mother's voice in my head (mostly because she calls me everyday). But what really resonated with me was the realization that I also hear my Nana Mary's voice, who passed away more than seven years ago, in my head as well.

]]> http://fierceandnerdy.com/philosophical-monday-the-good-voices-in-your-head/comment-page-1#comment-27476 MMKV Tue, 09 Feb 2010 22:13:00 +0000 http://fierceandnerdy.com/?p=13443#comment-27476 I definitely hear my mother's voice in my head (mostly because she calls me everyday). But what really resonated with me was the realization that I also hear my Nana Mary's voice, who passed away more than seven years ago, in my head as well. I definitely hear my mother's voice in my head (mostly because she calls me everyday). But what really resonated with me was the realization that I also hear my Nana Mary's voice, who passed away more than seven years ago, in my head as well.

]]> http://fierceandnerdy.com/philosophical-monday-the-good-voices-in-your-head/comment-page-1#comment-9862 Polly Tue, 09 Feb 2010 18:05:17 +0000 http://fierceandnerdy.com/?p=13443#comment-9862 Looking around at my friends who have taken care of themselves and my friends who haven't, I think trust is a major factor. Those of us that did ok tended to have parents who trusted us to make the right decisions for ourselves, with greater freedom as we got older. By high school I certainly wasn't free to do whatever I wanted, but I was given a lot of rope. I could have done a lot worse. The expectation, without it having to be explicitly stated, was that I would do the important stuff right. In my experience with children and families, kids will meet expectations, whatever those happen to be. If a parent expects their child to not know the right thing to do, they probably won't, and vice versa. Every child is such a wonderful complicated experiment in human behavior! :) Looking around at my friends who have taken care of themselves and my friends who haven't, I think trust is a major factor. Those of us that did ok tended to have parents who trusted us to make the right decisions for ourselves, with greater freedom as we got older. By high school I certainly wasn't free to do whatever I wanted, but I was given a lot of rope. I could have done a lot worse. The expectation, without it having to be explicitly stated, was that I would do the important stuff right. In my experience with children and families, kids will meet expectations, whatever those happen to be. If a parent expects their child to not know the right thing to do, they probably won't, and vice versa. Every child is such a wonderful complicated experiment in human behavior! :)

]]> http://fierceandnerdy.com/philosophical-monday-the-good-voices-in-your-head/comment-page-1#comment-27475 Polly Tue, 09 Feb 2010 18:05:00 +0000 http://fierceandnerdy.com/?p=13443#comment-27475 Looking around at my friends who have taken care of themselves and my friends who haven't, I think trust is a major factor. Those of us that did ok tended to have parents who trusted us to make the right decisions for ourselves, with greater freedom as we got older. By high school I certainly wasn't free to do whatever I wanted, but I was given a lot of rope. I could have done a lot worse. The expectation, without it having to be explicitly stated, was that I would do the important stuff right. In my experience with children and families, kids will meet expectations, whatever those happen to be. If a parent expects their child to not know the right thing to do, they probably won't, and vice versa. Every child is such a wonderful complicated experiment in human behavior! :) Looking around at my friends who have taken care of themselves and my friends who haven't, I think trust is a major factor. Those of us that did ok tended to have parents who trusted us to make the right decisions for ourselves, with greater freedom as we got older. By high school I certainly wasn't free to do whatever I wanted, but I was given a lot of rope. I could have done a lot worse. The expectation, without it having to be explicitly stated, was that I would do the important stuff right. In my experience with children and families, kids will meet expectations, whatever those happen to be. If a parent expects their child to not know the right thing to do, they probably won't, and vice versa. Every child is such a wonderful complicated experiment in human behavior! :)

]]> http://fierceandnerdy.com/philosophical-monday-the-good-voices-in-your-head/comment-page-1#comment-9860 ernessa Tue, 09 Feb 2010 16:49:43 +0000 http://fierceandnerdy.com/?p=13443#comment-9860 You know, my mother never told me that. And therefore it was a complete surprise when it came true BEFORE I had kids! You know, my mother never told me that. And therefore it was a complete surprise when it came true BEFORE I had kids!

]]> http://fierceandnerdy.com/philosophical-monday-the-good-voices-in-your-head/comment-page-1#comment-27474 ernessa Tue, 09 Feb 2010 16:49:00 +0000 http://fierceandnerdy.com/?p=13443#comment-27474 You know, my mother never told me that. And therefore it was a complete surprise when it came true BEFORE I had kids! You know, my mother never told me that. And therefore it was a complete surprise when it came true BEFORE I had kids!

]]> http://fierceandnerdy.com/philosophical-monday-the-good-voices-in-your-head/comment-page-1#comment-9859 ernessa Tue, 09 Feb 2010 16:48:45 +0000 http://fierceandnerdy.com/?p=13443#comment-9859 Thanks! And it's true that my mom's voice only rings louder as I get older. I imagine I'll be carrying her throughout my day in a few more decades! Thanks! And it's true that my mom's voice only rings louder as I get older. I imagine I'll be carrying her throughout my day in a few more decades!

]]> http://fierceandnerdy.com/philosophical-monday-the-good-voices-in-your-head/comment-page-1#comment-27473 ernessa Tue, 09 Feb 2010 16:48:00 +0000 http://fierceandnerdy.com/?p=13443#comment-27473 Thanks! And it's true that my mom's voice only rings louder as I get older. I imagine I'll be carrying her throughout my day in a few more decades! Thanks! And it's true that my mom's voice only rings louder as I get older. I imagine I'll be carrying her throughout my day in a few more decades!

]]> http://fierceandnerdy.com/philosophical-monday-the-good-voices-in-your-head/comment-page-1#comment-9858 ernessa Tue, 09 Feb 2010 16:46:59 +0000 http://fierceandnerdy.com/?p=13443#comment-9858 I haven't come up with a firm way to make sure that she makes good decisions yet. My mom spoke to us like little adults, and I think that was a good policy, but I also want to teach Betty follow-through, so I might end up holding her hand a little more until it's time to let it go. I haven't come up with a firm way to make sure that she makes good decisions yet. My mom spoke to us like little adults, and I think that was a good policy, but I also want to teach Betty follow-through, so I might end up holding her hand a little more until it's time to let it go.

]]> http://fierceandnerdy.com/philosophical-monday-the-good-voices-in-your-head/comment-page-1#comment-27472 ernessa Tue, 09 Feb 2010 16:46:00 +0000 http://fierceandnerdy.com/?p=13443#comment-27472 I haven't come up with a firm way to make sure that she makes good decisions yet. My mom spoke to us like little adults, and I think that was a good policy, but I also want to teach Betty follow-through, so I might end up holding her hand a little more until it's time to let it go. I haven't come up with a firm way to make sure that she makes good decisions yet. My mom spoke to us like little adults, and I think that was a good policy, but I also want to teach Betty follow-through, so I might end up holding her hand a little more until it's time to let it go.

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