Sadistic Sammy! [Ask Dr. Miro: What You Didn’t Learn In Health Class]

Dear Dr. Miro,

Do men who watch sadistic and degrading porn tend to have these desires? I found some pretty awful stuff on my boyfriend’s history stream and now I’m worried he’s really warped in ways that could be illegal. Not that it’s anything really illegal to look at (like kids or animals) but, seriously, intense stuff.

Sincerely,
Not Exactly Vanilla

Dear NEV,

Some men who watch sadistic and degrading porn want those desires enacted in real life, but for the majority of people, NO. Whatever someone enjoys experiencing in fantasy world is usually just that: FANTASY.

That is what is so wonderful about human beings–the ability to use our imaginations in all sorts of manners. You can do anything you want, as anyone you can think of, with or with out anybody else. Fantasy Desires are amazing because they allow our imaginations to run wild without hurting or interfering with anyone else. In fact, the ability to act out things in our imaginations is quite beneficial toward preventing warped illegalities in real life. Enjoying these darker recesses of ours minds gives an outlet to otherwise possibly hurtful situations.

So, getting these desires out in Porno Land, in the safe confines of his home, is not a problem. If you are uncomfortable with these scenarios, examine that. Has he ever brought up a need to enact any of what you saw in his history? Figure out what it is that is triggering you as well as why it is you feel the need to check his history.

Lust & Happiness,
Dr. Miro

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