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Safer Sex – Really? [Ask Dr. Miro (What You Didn’t Learn In Health Class)]

Dear Dr. Miro,

Is it really necessary to take “safe sex” precautions when you are having sex with just one person? What about someone you know very well?


Juana Lose D’Barriers

Dear JLD’B,

Just because you may be “having sex with just one person” does not mean that one person is only having sex with you. The same applies to someone you know very well. Exactly how well do you know this (potential) sex partner? Are you aware of every one of their past and present conquests and sexual interactions? The answer is: even if all that information were available to you – probably not.

No, it is not necessary to have safe sex but come on! You know it’s definitely advised. Honestly, you do not have to do anything, and should not do anything you truly do not want to do in regards to sexual matters. What you can do is look at the possible ramifications for not taking safe(r) sex measures and, decide if it is worth it to you. That whole gamble with your life and health thing may not be a big deal to you, so behave accordingly. Of course there is no such thing as completely “safe sex” unless you are going solo but there can be measures taken to have safer sex. Discuss with your partner what you both feel best about. Suggest getting tested together! If you are not comfortable or ready to have this kind of discussion with your lover(s), perhaps you are not ready to be engaging in such behavior. Remember: adult behavior requires adult conversations.

Lust & Happiness,

Dr. Miro

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