Spice IT Up! [Ask Dr. Miro: What You Didn’t Learn In Health Class]

Dear Dr. Miro,

What advice do you have on how to add spice to the sex-life for a couple who’s been getting it on for 20+ years?

Sincerely,
Lady Content Yet…

Dear LCY…,

Congratulations on twenty years together – pretty impressive in this day and age! Not sure how spicy you want to get so I will start with some basics. Sometimes when couples have been together for a long time they forget the simple things that young white-hot passionate newly coupled folks do. When was the last time you sent a sexy text to your partner letting him or her know what color your panties are – or if you are even wearing any? By stimulating those thoughts, you both start thinking a bit more sexy and priming those love pumps, so to speak. Perhaps you could mention a few things you would like to do to your S.O. when you finally are alone together. Remember: the build up to the event is just as important as the finale.

Have you tried talking about fantasies? Dressing up for each other? Role-playing? Recording yourselves? How about putting your tongue on a part of your loved one’s body that you have not visited in a long time, or even ever before? A good, oft neglected little spot is that area between the vaginal opening and anus (or a man’s testicles and anus) called the perineum. Use your tongue or lube to get it all slippery & rub gently in circle patterns or back and forth. And while we are on the topic of rubbing, do NOT underestimate the power of a sexy massage. There are some fabulous massage candles at Babeland (www.babeland.com) as well as delicious oils all over the place. Keep it simple and just use whatever lotions you have on hand OR get fancy with the sexy smells. Start face down and then move to the front!

Whatever you do, keep it fun and scrumptious. The more you play together, the better it will be. Keep utilizing as many senses as possible for years of spicy passion.

Lust & Happiness,
Dr. Miro

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