The College that Never Was [Oh, It's Tuesday]

Oct 11, 2011 6 Comments by

We’re about to start submitting my second novel, THE AWESOME GIRL’S GUIDE TO DATING EXTRAORDINARY MEN, which is about three women who attended my alma mater (Smith). This means 2 things. 1) I can finally read COMMENCEMENT by J. Courtney Sullivan (which is about white Smithies), without fear of influence and 2) I’ve been thinking a lot about the colleges I didn’t attend.

I’ve no regrets about attending Smith, which was my first choice going into the college selection process, but Middlebury, a small liberal arts college in Vermont, was a rather close second on my list, and I often wonder how my life would have turned out if I’d gone there. I still believe that I’d be a writer, but maybe I’d be a different kind of writer. Or maybe I’d still be living abroad, given Middlebury’s reputation for language and international study. There’s a chance that I might have stayed on the East Coast, or gone into academia. I might have ended up way more crunchy and granola than I am now.Who knows … but it is nice to wonder.

Do you also have a college that got away? How do you think your life would have differed if you’d attended that college? Have you ever met anyone from that college — what’s funny is that I’ve yet to meet a Middlebury alum, which makes me think that I definitely wouldn’t have been this me if I’d gone to that college.


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In addition to running Fierce and Nerdy, Ernessa T. Carter is the author of 32 CANDLES, a romantic comedy that is totally worth buying.
  • Julia D

    mine is also middlebury (!) which was actually my first choice. I applied early, was deffered, and then was wait-listed during the regular admission process. At that point, I was ready to reject them, because that is a really awful thing to do to an adolescent. Anyway, I’m glad I didn’t go there, as it would have made bad choices much easier than they were at Smith, I would’ve been depressed by the snow, I wouldn’t have the amazing female friends/family I have, and probably would not be married to my life’s love.
    on a waaaay more interesting subject, I CANNOT WAIT to read your next book!

    • http://fierceandnerdy.com Ernessa T. Carter

      Thanks so much, Julia. I totally agree with you. I think I might have made some bad choices and weirdly, not taken as many chances if I’d gone to Middlebury as opposed to Smith. It felt like I could do anything at the college I chose — everyone was always so encouraging. Whereas at a co-ed college, I probably would have been second-guessing myself out of a lot of adventures. But that’s so cool that we have the same college that got away!

  • ichoosethesun

    I can totally relate.  My school is Brown.  I was accepted and even attended a summer program designed to help students of color get acclimated to campus, however I ultimately decided to not attend college that year.  I ended up enrolling at the University of Maryland one year later.  One never really knows how things would be different but I suspect that although my journey may have been slightly different, the destination remains the same :)

    • http://fierceandnerdy.com Ernessa T. Carter

      Oh, I didn’t apply to Brown, but I heavily considered doing so. What’s funny is that our president eventually became their president. But I so agree about the destination — though, it’s doubtful that I’d have met my husband if I’d gone another path. 

  • Sunnydai

    I attended freshman year at Mt. Holyoke ( hello Smith neighbor!). Beautiful campus, beautiful people, great academics, but I had done the predominantly white elite school thing before and I needed a change of pace (not to mention the weather challenges!) I miss the female friendships I made there and if I had stayed, I would have closer female friends, but the path I chose led to me grad school and meeting my husband. Ya win some, ya lose some :)

    • http://fierceandnerdy.com Ernessa T. Carter

      That’s what I miss the most, too, about going to an all-women’s college. 

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