The Honey Moon’s OVER, Are We? – Ask Dr. Miro [What You Didn’t Learn in Health Class]

Dear Dr. Miro,

I know all about that Honeymoon phase of a relationship and I’m pretty sure I’m leaving that “stage” with my partner, but is there any point to continuing our relationship? I like the steamy passion and cravings for my lover and don’t want to be in a relationship where that doesn’t exist. What’s the point of being romantic with someone without the romance?

Sincerely,

Running Out of Steam

Dear ROoS,

You seem to be mixing up the concept of having to rip someone’s clothes off with that of romance. I agree that in the context of a long-term relationship, there is not much point to being involved sexually with someone, with whom there is never any romance. However, it is quite possible to maintain a romantic edge that incites that delicious fever over a period of time. Not having a red-hot butterfly in the stomach feeling each time you think of your partner is a reality. but it does not exclude the ability to have exciting lava flow eruptions with your significant other. It just means you have passed to another level.

I believe you can have even deeper, more meaningful encounters as you get to know another person’s being on psychic, physical and emotional levels. This is something you have to be ready for. Is it possible you are not ready to delve deeply enough into a relationship in which there is more than just teenage lust and devouring? This is perfectly all right. Before you decide whether or not something has a point, think about whether you actually need a reason to stay in the relationship, or if it is simply not relevant to your state of mind right now.

Lust & Happiness,

Dr. Miro

featured image credit: paul (dex)