Touching the Yeti? [Ask Dr. Miro: What You Didn’t Learn In Health Class]

Dear Dr. Miro,

I feel very insecure. I’m on the hairy side, so when interacting with my partners (sexually) I don’t let them touch me how they want to touch me or how I’d otherwise want to be touched. I don’t want to gross them out, but I also want to feel good, so I don’t know what to do.

Sad Yeti

Dear SY,

You have a few options: First is hair removal. If your body hair is interfering with your quality of life, do something about it! From permanent solutions like laser hair removal to mere shaving, there are many options for all genders and body parts.

The second option is to accept what your body does, more or less – and in your case, sweet Sad Yeti, it is more. Everyone’s body is different. We are like snowflakes in our delightful individuality! From hairless Porn Stars to burly Bears covered in furry mysteries, there are so many visual flavors. If it has been with you for an extended period of time, removing hair can sometimes feel like a removal of self or history. See what works for you.

After viewing most media, one would think we are all supposed to be these hairless, odorless, fat and cellulite free creatures. This is just not realistic. Our differences are what make us sexy, unique humans.

What is important is how we feel. Adult humans are supposed to have some hair on them. That does not mean it is wrong to remove it all or to have an excess. Again, we are all different.

You may find out that your sexual partners are already aware of your hirsute situation and may be attracted to that. However you decide to prune your tresses and hedges is up to you and how YOU feel most comfortable. After all, it is about learning to feel good in YOUR OWN body.

Lust & Happiness,
Dr. Miro

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