V-Day Loser [Ask Dr. Miro: What You Didn't Learn in Health Class]
Dear Dr. Miro,
I thought I was OK with being single until all this chaos for Valentines Day got up in my flow. What can I do to avoid becoming more depressed about being an alone loser than I already am?
Juan Is the Loneliest Number
First of all, there is no shame in being alone. In fact, it is a great place to be to truly understand yourself. You are certainly valid in your feelings about having Valentine’s Day shoved down the masses’ throats. Honestly, even those entrenched in couple-dom get a bit uncomfortable with the pressures of having to prove their love on this one particular day. From my research, it is not really even understood who this St. Valentine was! (Seemingly a conglomerate of about fourteen different martyred fellows all with the same name. Although, one in particular tried to convert someone he should not have and ended up, well, quite uncomfortably martyred.) But back to your question…
Keep in mind that this is a Hallmark Holiday with little to no relevance to the rest of the world. Try to hang out with your (single) friends and just have a good time. There is also the fabulous option of taking the time to honor your self. Give some love to you! That can mean different things to different people. Some manners to do this may include getting a massage, splurging on that new techno gadget you have had your eyes on and some good old fashioned self pleasuring! Avoid restaurants as they will be filled to over flowing with folk attempting to make romantic memories. Keep in mind that being single is not a sign of being a loser. I know it can be tough when it feels like everyone around you is happily submerged in partnered bliss but know that is simply how it feels. It is not the actual reality. Break free of this preordained societal nonsense and enjoy being the man you are. No matter what our ‘status’ we all come into and out of this world alone and that is something in which to take pride. You can be a stronger person by not succumbing to what you ‘should’ be and celebrating who you ARE.
Lust & Happiness,
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