Virgin Pressure! [Ask Dr. Miro: What You Didn’t Learn In Health Class]
Dear Dr. Miro,
I fell completely in love with this guy in my class and thought he was feeling the same way, too. We had a bunch of intense make out sessions and I just always want to be with him. The thing is, I’m a virgin and I always thought I should save myself for my future husband (even though I’ve done everything else). This boy is leaving town in a month and I will probably never see him again. When I told him my beliefs he laughed at me and still tried to get me to have sex with him. I’ve been trying to ignore him but feel like I’ve done something wrong. I’ve even heard him talking to other girls on the phone the same way he talked to me. Did I really mess up? No one else has ever made me feel the way I feel with him.
I’m a Virgin Not a Saint
You did not “mess up”. If you want to experience your First Time with someone who thinks you are special and respects your morals, this is not your guy. Maybe you will be a virgin on your wedding night. Perhaps you will make an intense hot yearning connection with someone, who cares about what you believe and decide to have sex – even though you are not planning on marrying him. Regardless, you get to decide when the right moment is, for YOU. I know it must really hurt right now but you will find someone, someday, with whom to experience those irresistible burning feelings you had with this fellow from your class. It certainly does not feel that way at this moment, but you are going to have to trust me when I say: give yourself time to heal from this tear and NEVER let someone have something so special as YOU if they do not respect and treasure what they are getting.
Lust & Happiness,
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