Why Can’t I Be Quiet Like Ryan Gosling? [Dear Thursday]

Nov 10, 2011 6 Comments by

Watching the “Quiet Ryan” Funny or Die video (which I’ve posted below), I was reminded of two things:

1. My long-time desire to be a more quiet person in general. I tend to be loud and obnoxious and only become more so the better you get to know me. I’ve always been that way, and even when I try to be quiet in new situations, if I’m somewhere for more than say, an hour, the loud and obnoxious usually comes out. I just can’t tame it, because at a base level, loud and obnoxious is who I am. Still, I often wish I did quiet as well as Ryan Gosling, and of course, Davie from 32 CANDLES.

2. I am OBSESSED with “A Real Hero” by College, the song featured in this video. It’s off the DRIVE soundtrack and I’ve been listening to it just about every day since seeing the movie a few weeks ago.

So two questions:

1. What quality do you wish you could have, but simply can’t pull off at a base level of personality? And…

2. What song(s) are you currently obsessed with? I’m sick of everything in my collection right now, save “A Real Hero,” so I’d love some suggestions.

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In addition to running Fierce and Nerdy, Ernessa T. Carter is the author of 32 CANDLES, a romantic comedy that is totally worth buying.
  • Hutchinsonamber

    I do wish I oozed of coolness. I don’t have it to pull off- for sure with three children hanging off of me at Target as I look for tampons to match up with my coupons. My husband is able to be anti-people when he gets home and the moment we hit the party or anywhere else-LIFE OF THE PARTY!!! People want to be like him and be invited into his personal space. I don’t get it.Oh well, at least for sure I have him and my oldest daughter (who for sure will take all of his cool traits sucking her sisters dry and left with the not completely lame genes) in the family.

    • http://fierceandnerdy.com Ernessa T. Carter

      Oh, that is too funny. And man are you right about how hard it is to ooze cool with kids. I wore a really clever outfit today, but it turned out to be just weird and impractical when my daughter had an unexpected meltdown. I’ve decided I’ll try for cool again when she leaves for college. But that’s yet another reason I wish I could be quiet. Quiet people really do ooze cool, especially if they’re quiet because they’re quiet (like Ryan Gosling) and not quiet because they’re scared (like me in new situations).

  • http://babysmiling.wordpress.com/ Baby Smiling In Back Seat

    I am happily an introvert, but it would be nice to feel (or at least seem) comfortable talking to people I don’t know well. Commanding a room, being grilled professionally, I can rock all sorts of things that are hard for others, but chit-chatting with a random mommy at the playground, ugh — and it’s even worse if kids are out of the equation. I’ve just gotten more and more awkward as time has gone on.

    • http://fierceandnerdy.com Ernessa T. Carter

      Ugh, don’t even get me started on talking to other mothers. I find that so hard. And most of the time I don’t even bother to talk to other moms at the playground. It’s just too hard for me. So I guess I do end up being quiet and thoughtful in certain situation by default. Kind of a win, right?

  • http://www.honeysmoke.com Honeysmoke

    Just came over here to say it was such a delight to see you and your daughter in Essence mag this month. I haven’t finished reading the story, but I wish the lead had used her real name and showed her face. Part of me thinks that move buys into colorism. Would love to hear your take on this.

    • http://fierceandnerdy.com Ernessa T. Carter

      I’m sure she had her reasons, either not wanting to upset her family who she quotes as saying hurtful things or not wanting her daughter’s classmates to come after her. I just got my Essence today and I enjoyed reading about the other perspectives on the issue. I’m fairly optimistic about the issue, so it was really nice to have mine included. 

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