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Ask Dr. Miro: Hot For Women [What You Didn’t Learn In Health Class]

Dear Dr. Miro,

I am totally straight but for the past few months, I have been fantasizing about being with women. I mean, REALLY being with another woman.  ANY woman!  All women! I can’t stop thinking about what it would be like to have some hot chick completely ravish me and then ME making her cum over and over. I have been in a great relationship with a man for five years and love him very much but after seeing this porn that had two ridiculously sexy women in it, that’s all I think about (except with me as the star). Any female I see turns me crazy excited: in line at the grocery store, driving my car, even old ladies crossing the street make me all wet. I mentioned it to my boyfriend and he just thought I was trying to turn him on, but I don’t know. What’s wrong with me?

Juana Vulva (all over me)

Dear JV,

I love when someone starts off with: “I’m totally straight but…” What does that even mean? Humans are sexual creatures. Hardly any of us are completely this or that. Alfred Kinsey brought into our consciousness the concept of sexuality being fluid. It’s a gray area — not black or white. Many folks who identify as heterosexual have fantasies about the same sex just as many homosexuals think sexy thoughts about the opposite sex.

Fantasies are incredible things! Remember: you can think about anything you want and so far, there is no Thought Police to stop you. In fact, fantasies are the healthiest sexual outlet we humans have! You can go as far as you want, with whatever and whomever you desire, however you desire, and no one gets hurt. You cannot contract any STI’s, get pregnant, be arrested or kicked out of any club you may belong to from having a good, or very, very bad, fantasy.

As far as what’s wrong with you? Sounds like you are turned on by the thought of being with a woman. There is certainly NOTHING wrong with that. If the reality of being with a woman scares you, try talking out these desires with your fellow in and out of the bedroom. You have been in a long-term relationship for a while and you may need to change things up a bit. There is no crime in wondering what it would be like to have sex with a female. Wondering what it is like to “make” another person have an orgasm is completely natural. It is possible that you will need more than fantasy and will want to experience this in real life but I don’t think you are ready for this yet. When that time comes, talk about it with your boyfriend. See how he reacts. Maybe he would enjoy this as much as you. You never know until you try!

Lust and Happiness,
Dr. Miro

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