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Ask Dr. Miro: What You Didn’t Learn in Health Class


an 18+ blogumn by Miro Gudelsky

Hi FaN readers. Dr. Miro here ready with answers to all your sexual questions. I can’t wait to hear from you! Our first question is on how to keep baby making sexy…

Dear Dr. Miro:

My husband and I are trying to make a baby. This means we have to have sex during my prime baby-making days. I’ll tell you what, nothing makes sex less sexy than HAVING to do it.

What can we do to spice things up and help avoid the stress of trying to conceive when doing it? We know we are in trouble when even the girl-on-girl pornos fail to titillate…

Juana Get Horny

Dear JGH,

Nothing kills the mood on ANYTHING like being told you have to… Since you know approximately when you are the most fertile, I suggest making an honest assessment of what is and is not important enough to clear off your schedule. You want to make a baby or even two? This is an investment that I’m pretty sure you can take one day off of work for.

Try making those super fertile days as stress and hassle-free as possible. I hate to say it but there is something REALLY sexy about knowing at the end of your day you don’t have to make dinner, return calls, clean up or go to the gym. This may mean making a date w/your hubby where NEITHER of you are allowed to turn on computers or phones and just focusing on relaxing. This may mean you two get a good night’s rest together after a yummy meal OR it may mean that you are chill enough to have a delicious make out session. Don’t force the sexy-time because, well, that’s soooo un-sexy. Take the pressure off his performance and your eggs! Take a bath. Give each other massages – maybe it will turn into a clitoral massage. But seriously, give yourselves some down time.

But let’s talk about when you are already naked and the girl-on-girl action isn’t working. Well, it’s time to do a little self-motivating! Get out the lube, make sure there are new batteries in your vibrator and watch his hand manipulate himself while you vibe out. Enjoy that for a while. Remember, NO pressure.  Maybe you can use your hand on his penis or he can try his hand with your vibe or just stick to your own bodies. I think the best way to get hottest and heaviest intra-vaginal penile containment is to have faith that it’s going to happen. And it’s going to happen. You want to conceive with passion!

Since you two have a pattern of watching videos to get you in the mood, why not make your own? Nothing too crazy but a little bit of this, a little bit of that, combined with KNOWING that on that video are the future parents of your baby… You could film each other with hand held close ups or even a tripod. Remind yourselves of how sexy you are.

Really, my main point is to enjoy your selves and focus on the erotic – NOT the reproductive. Once you have the time frames calculated, stop & re-set. This is not something to cross off your to-do list! Remind yourselves of what attracted you to each other and why you want to make a baby, together. It’s amazing how many people are able to conceive when they re-visit the times when they were on fire for each other.

Good LUCK! And you know, I will totally understand if you want to name your future spawn after me…

Lust & Happiness,
Dr. Miro


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