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Philosophical Monday: Good Enough for Me

bettyhathawaiiI know you might find this hard to believe, but sometimes I look at the blank screen for my daily column and I think to myself, “I have nothing to say.”

Today, I wrote “Philosophical Monday” in my title bar and I thought, “I have absolutely nothing left to say about motherhood.”

A couple dozen ideas sprang into my head, “Talk about your birthday with Betty” and “Talk about going to brunch at Jill’s and Clark’s w/ Betty” and “Talk about how Betty is thisclose to being able to rock a Pebbles Flintstone look” and “Talk about your art — call it your ‘other child’!

A shot all of these suggestions down. Many of them seemed like retreads, and I didn’t think I had 300 words to give the ideas that weren’t.

I suppose I’m at the point in motherhood where things are just going fine. No more nightmares about losing and/or dropping Betty. I’ve learned to shut down thoughts of anything bad happening to Betty immediately. I don’t think I’m the best mom in the entire world, but I’m doing the best I can and that’s enough for me.

Enough. I guess that will be what this article is about. Lately, I haven’t been able to get up the energy to be overly critical of the job I’m doing as a parent. It feels really strange, b/c I’m pretty harsh with myself and this was the one job that I thought I’d be worrying and worrying over. But lately, I’ve actually felt less anxious. In fact, it’s like the anxiety just turned itself off and I don’t exactly know why.

I always thought motherhood would be a rather Martin-Luther-in-his-Catholic-days sort of thing, with me flagellating myself with guilt over every motherly misstep and imperfection. But instead I find myself enjoying the time I have with my daughter. Looking forward to her sibling. Getting excited about the life lying ahead of her. And guilt … I just leave that to other moms.

I can honestly say, this is the first time I’ve ever looked at any aspect of my life and said, “Yep, that’s good enough for me.”

Feels strange, but I’m hoping I can hold on to it. As always, we’ll see.