Friends With Bummers! [Ask Dr. Miro: What You Didn’t Learn In Health Class]...

Dear Dr. Miro, I started seeing a guy from work in Friends With Benefits way but we only hook up when he’s REALLY drunk. I was really happy with the situation – no strings attached, etc and thought he was too but then he’s sober he goes on about how “It was such a mistake” and we shouldn’t do that again. AND, when my ex showed up at a bar we were all at together my FWB’s gave us the evil stink eye all. night. long. What gives? Sincerely, Toni Dear T, First of all, Work Guy is obviously not happy with your Friends With Benefits situation. He has deeper feelings for you compounded with layers he is not admitting even to himself. If you truly want a FWBs experience, consider someone who can actually use his or her words to articulate what they are thinking and feeling in a manner that will facilitate a fun night and not leave any residual guilt (on his end) or doubts (that I hear from you). I am not coming down on your happiness with your current set-up but, how good could the sex be if he is always “really drunk” by the time you get it on? Having a sloppy night of passion can be great for some people but I imagine being told it was a mistake can dampen the feelings. Still confused by the evil stink eye your FWBs gave you? Understand, Work Guy is not actually a Friend WITH Benefits. He is someone you work with (this in itself is going to go badly and be rather awkward) that has feelings for you, who cannot commit to an actual relationship. I am not making any value judgements in regards to committing or not...

Dream Man Crazy! [Ask Dr. Miro (What You Didn’t Learn In Health Class)])...

Dear Dr. Miro, I met my Dream Man and am on the springboard of crazy. I can’t get him out of my head. Since he’s a famous actor, there are many shots of him online so I find myself staring at photos of him much more than I should and losing myself in daydream. We only spoke for a few minutes and yet I can’t stop thinking about him. I don’t want to Facebook him, even though he said I could, because that embarrasses me and I wouldn’t even know what to say. How can I stop thinking about him? Should I stop thinking about him? Please don’t say I should go out and hook up with someone else. I did that and it did not suit me. I guess I’m just a dreamy lover of love… Sincerely, Hopelessly Devoted to My Dream Man Dear HDTMDM, If this is truly a dream of yours, follow it. See where it may lead! What’s the worst that can happen? At least you will have tried. All you have to lose is the fantasy and if you are OK with that, I say: Go for Him!! I know that a lot of people may advise you to forget about this Dream Fellow and move on with your life, but I am not sure as to where you are supposed to move. We are encouraged to turn many of our dreams into realities so why not in the realm of Romance? When I look around at what people (possibly including you) are capable of accomplishing, things like raising families, starting their own companies, creating better worlds for us to live in… questions about talking to the woman or man of your dreams seems like a no-brainer. Putting yourself...