Do Thin Condoms Break Easier? [Ask Dr. Miro: What You Didn’t Learn In Health Class]

Dear Dr. Miro: My man has a hard time staying, well, hard with regular condoms and likes using the thinner ones but I’m worried they won’t be as strong and maybe break on us? Is this true? I’ve had condoms break in the past and it was TERRIBLE! Sincerely, Helpless For His Hard On   Dear HFHHO, Regardless of how thin a condom may be, it must pass the same rigorous tests as all of the other ones set down by the U.S. Food And Drug Administration. The ultra-thin condoms may be easier to tear with jewelry or raggedy nails so watch out for that but as far as the usual (or unusual) thrusts and explosions, the thinner prophylactics will be as effective as their thicker colleagues. In fact, there are such high standards for testing the strength, packaging integrity, leakiness, stretch capabilities and quality of lubricant, it is incredibly rare condom breakage is due to manufacturers, no matter where they are made – it is almost always user error. Here are some ways to avoid being one of the “user error” statistics: – Use before expiration. That date is NOT arbitrary and is there for a reason. – Use a properly fitted condom. Yes, there are different sizes – try a few out in different brands and sizes to see what fits! – Do not use condoms that have been exposed to extreme temperatures or have been in direct sunlight. Keep them off your windowsill and out of the laundry. – Do NOT reuse. This is not the time to be green. – The package should be sealed with no holes. You can find out by feeling for an air pocket. If it is, proceed. If it is not – get another condom. – Stick with water or silicon based lubricants (as opposed to oil based) to maintain the integrity of both the condom and you. If you see a lube next to where food is displayed, you cannot use that with condoms. – Use a lot of lubricant that is specifically made to be used with condoms – especially with anal sex. The less friction, the less likelihood of it breaking. Plus, it just feels better! Lust & Happiness, Dr. Miro Image Credit: The Real...

Meaningful VS Boring Sex! [Ask Dr. Miro: What You Didn’t Learn In Health Class]

Dear Dr. Miro, When I was in a relationship with a girl for about two years the sex was not good, I mean it was OK but not great. I could get hard and perform and everything except I couldn’t cum. After a while I decided to cheat and the sex was amazing so I ended the other relationship. Then THAT sex got boring and I stopped cumming every time so I ended that one too. This keeps happening, or not happening, I guess. Does this mean I will never be able to have a meaningful relationship because I NEED great sex? I’m a 22 year-old man and feel I should be able to do this. Sincerely, Where’s The One Who Will Rock My World? Dear WTOWWRMW?, This all depends on your definition of “great sex.” If what you find makes your sexual experience amazing is being with a new person then, at this juncture in time, yes: you may have trouble finding a meaningful relationship that involves incredible sex. If getting to know someone takes the mystery and excitement out of your hot nights, and you do not want to bother figuring out how to keep things new and fresh, you may have to forgo serious couplings at this juncture. Perhaps you are not ready to have a long-term monogamous partnership. That is OK. Go with that. What is your need to have a steady girlfriend? Seeing as you are twenty-two, try enjoying yourself and not get too hung up on needing to settle down. If this problem persists six years from now, you may need to take stock of your situation. Think about what it is making your interactions boring. Are you feeling confined or distracted? It may be that you are confusing the thrill of the chase with actual desire for a person. That would make your interest wane as soon as you feel these ladies are becoming attached. Sometimes when you feel bored it is because you are boring. Other times it is because you were wrong about what you actually want. Lust & Happiness, Dr....

Urethral Orgasm? [Ask Dr. Miro: What You Didn’t Learn In Health Class]

Dear Dr. Miro, How come when I’m having sex it sometimes feels like I have to pee and it’s not from G-Spot stimulation? I’m looking at biology books and can’t figure out how the urethra is connected to sexual arousal but it must be because it’s right there and sometimes when I hold it in for a long time I can actually have an orgasm! Please explain. Sincerely, Full Bladder Bertie Dear FBB, The urethra and the bladder are squished in there with all of your sexual organs. When you get turned on, there is a lot of swelling. In males it is obvious because you see the penis become tumescent, or erect. In females it is not as obvious but they have erectile tissue too! Not only can you see the labia majora and minora lips become puffier and darker as the clitoris becomes engorged and swollen but what you are not seeing is the majority of the clitoris “underground” below the lips. Other organs begin to enlarge and shift as well. While this is happening, the urethra gets a bit pushed upon because of all the moving around. If you are engaging in penetrative sex, things are getting even more mashed together so it would make sense that there is less room for your urine. In fact, the G-Spot, which is in between the vaginal wall and the urethral sponge, is getting stimulated by all the pressure coming at it from a multitude of directions. There are a lot of people who liken having an orgasm to the release of urinating or sneezing. That moment when there is no control and it is all about giving in to the bodily needs and desires can be highly erotic. There are many examples of folks who get off on sneezing. Also, I have heard quite a few stories from women who learned how to self-pleasure, as girls, by rubbing against their beds with full bladders. But try not to do that so much as the holding in of urine may result in other issues such as urinary tract or bladder infections. Lust & Happiness, Dr. Miro Image Credit:...

Sexing the Flu? [Ask Dr. Miro: What You Didn’t Learn In Health Class]...

Dear Dr. Miro, I have the flu. I’m still very horny and want to have sex with my girlfriend. In fact, laying around in bed all day just makes me want more sex and there’s only so much jerking off I can do before I’m going crazy for my girl. Here’s my question: Can I give the flu to my special lady friend through sex? Also, a BIG thank you for your past column! It helped me & my girlfriend realize I’m not a complete sex maniac freak. Sincerely, Sir Flu Man Chu of the Horny Knights Dear Sir FMCotHK, Influenza cannot be caught through vaginal secretions or semen. The Virus may be spread, but it will be too unhappy to flourish. Flu Virus really likes the bronchial system! So technically, you will not transmit Flu through intra-vaginal penile containment or sticking your penis into any orifice, really. This Virus spreads via airborne droplets and particles when an infected person sneezes, coughs or speaks. Sometimes it can be passed on through things someone with the virus touched, sneezed or coughed on like a doorknob or penis. When a healthy person touches these polluted items and then touches his/her mouth or nose, the Virus may enter their system. If you were to wash every part of your body AND not breathe any where near your partner, it would be feasible to have sex and not give her the flu. But really, how realistic is that? You see, although the actual “sex” part is not going to make your Lady sick, every other part of the act will. Helpful hint: If you are going to have juicy sexual activity while sick with flu, make sure there is a lot of air circulation in your room. In...

Too Turned ON? [Ask Dr. Miro: What You Didn’t Learn In Health Class]

Dear Dr Miro, I’m constantly turned on by my girlfriend – a good thing, I realize this – I’m a very lucky Man. We have sex in the morning and then about 20 min later I have another erection and want to do it again and a lot of times we do. If I’m around her all day, I want to have sex with her maybe 4, 5 times and cum just as much each time. This is after many years together, I might add. Usually she’s game but I worry she’ll get bored, or she’s thinking ‘seriously?! Again?!’ I love my GF, I find her incredibly sexy and she gets me VERY excited – But can it be possible I want her Too Much? What’s up with the erections for her all day long?? Is this a medical condition? Did I mention I’m in my early forties? Sincerely, Hard To Know Dear HTK, How amazing you have found someone you feel so excited by! This is a good thing and as long as she is “game”, I do not see a problem. The only questions you should ask yourself are the following: 1. Do you feel the need to have sex with others? 2. Do you feel unsatisfied after ejaculating? 3. Are your erections interfering with other aspects of your life? 4. Is this interfering with HER life? If the answer is no to the above questions, keep enjoying yourselves! Mainly, it comes down to communication. Check in with your sexy lover to make sure she is not feeling pressured. Finding someone with whom you share a similar desire level with can be amazing but keep in mind, realistically, it will not always be like this. So, enjoy what you have! Sometimes it...