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Dear Thursday: I’m Scared Therefore I Do it Anyway [Book Tour News]
They always say that it’s a thin line between love and hate. Maybe that’s true. My natural tendency is to love everyone b/c folks in general are just so frickin dope. And I try not to hate, b/c I’m lazy and hate takes a ton of energy to maintain. Over the last few years, I’ve actually found that it’s a thin line between scared and should. What do I mean by that?
Well, back in 2006, The War of Art by Steven Pressfield (which I consider my writer’s bible) introduced me to the concept of “fear as your true north.” Basically Pressfield asserted that being scared to write something is a good thing — fear means you should write it. This inspired me through the rewrite of 32 CANDLES and has served me well while writing my follow-up, THE AWESOME GIRL’S GUIDE TO DATING EXTRAORDINARY MEN. But I’ve also started applying the concept to my real life.
If someone asks me to do something and my first instinct is to say no because it scares me, then I force myself to do it anyway. That’s basically how I operate now. I’m not an overly confident person (the word neurotic has come up in descriptions), but I try to do the things I’m scared to do.
So when I saw this GalleyCat article, suggesting that authors do an impromptu book tour with the JetBlue All You Can Jet (AYCJ) Pass, which allows you to travel to any JetBlue city between Sept. 7 and Oct. 6 for $700, I was intrigued. So intrigued that I actually got all the way to the payment page, before calling my husband to talk me out of it.
I decided that
1. Switching the Fall tour to September as opposed to October would mean I’d have to scramble.
2. I don’t like asking folks for stuff, and doing an impromptu tour means inundating both my business and personal contacts with requests.
3. What if no one comes out? I live in fear of the zero-person book event.
4. That’s a lot of organization and meeting new people. I wondered if I have it in me, since at the end of the day, I’m still a rather disorganized and shy person.
5. My plan had been to work on the second draft of THE AWESOME GIRL’S GUIDE TO DATING EXTRAORDINARY MEN in September.
So I decided to stick to my original plan and wrote yesterday’s “One More Thing Before We Go” about why I was passing on the AYCJ Pass. BUT I couldn’t stop thinking about the opportunity and after lots of thought and a conversation with my one of my publicists, I came up with the following:
1. What others call “too soon” might actually be an invitation to get your ish together right now.
2. The best advice I’ve gotten from a fellow writer is to use all of your favors for your first book. So no, I don’t like asking folks for stuff, but that’s not really a good reason not to do so.
3. Yeah, it will be embarrassing if no one shows up, so I should make sure that doesn’t happen.
4. Knowing I’m disorganized and shy helps tremendously with being disorganized and shy. Only the disorganized and shy will understand why I just said that.
5. I’ve been hitting my writing goals all this week with a) my MIL and dog in the hospital, b) no childcare, and c) no guaranteed writing time. I can hit my writing goals on tour. In fact, this week might have been bootcamp for writing on tour.
But most of all, I was scared to buy the pass, and fear is my true north, so…
I went home, took a deep breath, reopened my laptop after my toddler closed it (twice), and bought the pass. An hour later JetBlue announced that the 7-day version of the pass had sold out. And now I’m writing this blog post, straight representing for scaredy-cats everywhere and wondering, where should I go in September?
Oh, and fellow writers, definitely click on the pic to purchase The War of Art if you haven’t already done so.
Chicago. Yup. Definitely. :o)
Dude, I'm seeing that I so have to do Chicago. I have family there and perhaps most importantly, I love that H&M on Miracle Mile!
Chicago. Yup. Definitely. :o)
Dude, I'm seeing that I so have to do Chicago. I have family there and perhaps most importantly, I love that H&M on Miracle Mile!
I hope your ass is coming to the Bay Area!
Kim,We're ALL coming, the whole family to the PNW in October. The one condition of me buying the September pass is that our Fall vacation stayed in tact. We're not vacationing for most of next year, b/c I'll (hopefully) be pregnant, so our seasonal vacations have become sacrosanct.
I hope your ass is coming to the Bay Area!
Kim,We're ALL coming, the whole family to the PNW in October. The one condition of me buying the September pass is that our Fall vacation stayed in tact. We're not vacationing for most of next year, b/c I'll (hopefully) be pregnant, so our seasonal vacations have become sacrosanct.
So where are you going?
So where are you going?
First, thanks for the book suggestion! I read The Artist's Way last year and it really helped me slip back into good writing habits. I'm open to another re-awakening.
What a great idea to use the Jet Blue offer for a book tour! Glad you're taking advantage of that. As far as cities, I think you should go to the following cities in your month of travel: Orlando, Charlotte, Baltimore, Boston, New York, DC, Pittsburgh, Chicago, (Too bad they don't go to Detroit!), New Orleans, Houston, Oakland/SF, LA
So many of your cities made the short list. Look for an announcement soon.
First, thanks for the book suggestion! I read The Artist's Way last year and it really helped me slip back into good writing habits. I'm open to another re-awakening.
What a great idea to use the Jet Blue offer for a book tour! Glad you're taking advantage of that. As far as cities, I think you should go to the following cities in your month of travel: Orlando, Charlotte, Baltimore, Boston, New York, DC, Pittsburgh, Chicago, (Too bad they don't go to Detroit!), New Orleans, Houston, Oakland/SF, LA
So many of your cities made the short list. Look for an announcement soon.
DC . . . definitely DC. BTW, seeing this blog post made me realized that I still don't have your book, which I ordered from Amazon on August. So I just went to the Amazon website and it claims the book was delivered last Friday . . . but it wasn't. It wasn't. Damn you Amazon. Grumble, grumble.
DC's on the short list! Did you complain to amazon. They usually give you free credits if you complain…
I contacted Amazon and they couldn't have been better with their response. They re-shipped your book via courier and it was delivered to my office this morning, less than 18 hours after I contacted them. Stay tuned for my review! And keep me posted on your possible DC visit. I'll round some people up for your reading if you come.
DC . . . definitely DC. BTW, seeing this blog post made me realized that I still don't have your book, which I ordered from Amazon on August. So I just went to the Amazon website and it claims the book was delivered last Friday . . . but it wasn't. It wasn't. Damn you Amazon. Grumble, grumble.
DC's on the short list! Did you complain to amazon. They usually give you free credits if you complain…
I contacted Amazon and they couldn't have been better with their response. They re-shipped your book via courier and it was delivered to my office this morning, less than 18 hours after I contacted them. Stay tuned for my review! And keep me posted on your possible DC visit. I'll round some people up for your reading if you come.
You should get in contact with some CMU alum peeps and organize a book signing in Pittsburgh!
Pittsburgh's on the short list! Just hoping I can still call in favors at CMU…
You should get in contact with some CMU alum peeps and organize a book signing in Pittsburgh!
Pittsburgh's on the short list! Just hoping I can still call in favors at CMU…
Any chance you're coming to the Deep South?
I want to SO bad. But JetBlue doesn't fly to Atlanta and I don't know anyone in New Orleans. :(
Any chance you're coming to the Deep South?
I want to SO bad. But JetBlue doesn't fly to Atlanta and I don't know anyone in New Orleans. :(
PLEASE come to Chicago!!! We love your book in the Chi, and I just started a book club and "32 Candles" is the inaugural pick! :) You would NOT have a zero person event-trust me. Thanks for the heads up on the Jet Blue Pass. I have an LDR going on (LA/Chicago) and that pass could be quite a lovely hook-up.
Chicago's on the shortlist! Sadly, the Jet Blue Pass is sold out. But there's always next year to hop on it fast!
PLEASE come to Chicago!!! We love your book in the Chi, and I just started a book club and "32 Candles" is the inaugural pick! :) You would NOT have a zero person event-trust me. Thanks for the heads up on the Jet Blue Pass. I have an LDR going on (LA/Chicago) and that pass could be quite a lovely hook-up.
Chicago's on the shortlist! Sadly, the Jet Blue Pass is sold out. But there's always next year to hop on it fast!
otay. maybe next time.
otay. maybe next time.